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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 244535" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>A thought in a different direction - have you asked her what she expects from a baby, at 15? WHat does she expect the baby to give her?</p><p></p><p>I remember reading an article years ago in Readers Digest (I would have been fifteen at the time, myself) of how girls from a particular neighbourhood always followed a certain pattern - pregnant as teens, often to a series of fathers, usually because they were trying to fill a gap in their lives with the unconditional love of a baby. The author had taken a particular girl under his wing, trying to help her by getting her to attend school, find a sense of direction, feel some value about herself - and she still got pregnant at 15. Because everyone else around her did.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying this is why Kanga wants it, but for a lot of the girls in the story, they had certain expectations of how their life would be after they had a baby, full of rosy-coloured dreams, but the reality was also the trap, they couldn't say, "This isn't the dream, it's a nightmare, I want to turn back the clock," because life doesn't work that way.</p><p></p><p>If she is dtermined to get pregnant, then she will find a way to circumvent birth control. The best preventive is her own mind and her own determination, but you need to find a way to plug into this. SHE needs to want to avoid pregnancy, and for this she needs to have a better understanding of her own desires in this as well as some realistic idea of what to expect, not some rosy ideal.</p><p></p><p>Babies having babies - a nightmare.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 244535, member: 1991"] A thought in a different direction - have you asked her what she expects from a baby, at 15? WHat does she expect the baby to give her? I remember reading an article years ago in Readers Digest (I would have been fifteen at the time, myself) of how girls from a particular neighbourhood always followed a certain pattern - pregnant as teens, often to a series of fathers, usually because they were trying to fill a gap in their lives with the unconditional love of a baby. The author had taken a particular girl under his wing, trying to help her by getting her to attend school, find a sense of direction, feel some value about herself - and she still got pregnant at 15. Because everyone else around her did. I'm not saying this is why Kanga wants it, but for a lot of the girls in the story, they had certain expectations of how their life would be after they had a baby, full of rosy-coloured dreams, but the reality was also the trap, they couldn't say, "This isn't the dream, it's a nightmare, I want to turn back the clock," because life doesn't work that way. If she is dtermined to get pregnant, then she will find a way to circumvent birth control. The best preventive is her own mind and her own determination, but you need to find a way to plug into this. SHE needs to want to avoid pregnancy, and for this she needs to have a better understanding of her own desires in this as well as some realistic idea of what to expect, not some rosy ideal. Babies having babies - a nightmare. Marg [/QUOTE]
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