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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 593206" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>We have bit of similar issues than you Sig. I think that part of that 'over optimistic planning' is typical young adult thing. Of course difficult children always take all typical developmental challenges to next level. My difficult child is currently facing one of those optimistic plans to not panning out and is being a really pissy prat about it. And I mean REALLY. But I still think that goes to growing pains category. With his deeper issues he is at least hanging there, even being proactive with them. So all in all I'm rather proud of my pissy prat.</p><p></p><p>My easy child continues to be a joy. He too has struggled with optimistic planning department and still does, but he is slowly learning better time management and is getting out of the hole with school after his nose dive this winter. With sport he is doing good and is enthusiastic and I'm very proud to tell you that his team mates voted him their fair player/best team mate award. And psst! you didn't hear this from me but I think he is in love. And to very lovely girl. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/flirtysmile3.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":flirtysmile3:" title="flirtysmile3 :flirtysmile3:" data-shortname=":flirtysmile3:" /></p><p></p><p>I'm not as restrained as you with my boys over optimistic plans. I don't know if it helps any, or makes it worse, but I can't help giving them advice on that. With difficult child I try to talk him to cut himself some slack, be patient and remember that 'life happens' when he plans for the future. With easy child I try to teach him to evaluate a time he thinks task will take, add 50 % and if task involves others add another 50 %, another 50 % if it involves transportation or depends from weather and add extra 100 % if it involves animals or small or teen children. That way you get schedules that have a fair chance to happen. And with both I press the importance of scheduling down time. And especially with difficult child needed down time is a lot.</p><p></p><p>But as I said, no idea if trying to teach them helps or just makes them more resistant. I just can't keep my mouth shut. </p><p></p><p>I and husband are doing good. Marriage counselling has been a success and while all things difficult child and also our kitchen reno do put stress to our family things are looking up in our relationship in all levels. husband has also lost some weight and gotten himself better shape and is much more like a guy I once fell in love with both in appearance and energy level. And kitchen reno is close to complete. We will have pros coming next week to put up the kitchen cabinets and machinery. After that it is just cleaning and some finishing touches, skirtings and all that. I'm so ready to eat something I didn't made and freeze in February or early March. And even more ready not to do dishes in buckets at sauna benches. In fact I have found that I'm very fond of dish machines.</p><p></p><p>All in all, things could be much worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 593206, member: 14557"] We have bit of similar issues than you Sig. I think that part of that 'over optimistic planning' is typical young adult thing. Of course difficult children always take all typical developmental challenges to next level. My difficult child is currently facing one of those optimistic plans to not panning out and is being a really pissy prat about it. And I mean REALLY. But I still think that goes to growing pains category. With his deeper issues he is at least hanging there, even being proactive with them. So all in all I'm rather proud of my pissy prat. My easy child continues to be a joy. He too has struggled with optimistic planning department and still does, but he is slowly learning better time management and is getting out of the hole with school after his nose dive this winter. With sport he is doing good and is enthusiastic and I'm very proud to tell you that his team mates voted him their fair player/best team mate award. And psst! you didn't hear this from me but I think he is in love. And to very lovely girl. :flirtysmile3: I'm not as restrained as you with my boys over optimistic plans. I don't know if it helps any, or makes it worse, but I can't help giving them advice on that. With difficult child I try to talk him to cut himself some slack, be patient and remember that 'life happens' when he plans for the future. With easy child I try to teach him to evaluate a time he thinks task will take, add 50 % and if task involves others add another 50 %, another 50 % if it involves transportation or depends from weather and add extra 100 % if it involves animals or small or teen children. That way you get schedules that have a fair chance to happen. And with both I press the importance of scheduling down time. And especially with difficult child needed down time is a lot. But as I said, no idea if trying to teach them helps or just makes them more resistant. I just can't keep my mouth shut. I and husband are doing good. Marriage counselling has been a success and while all things difficult child and also our kitchen reno do put stress to our family things are looking up in our relationship in all levels. husband has also lost some weight and gotten himself better shape and is much more like a guy I once fell in love with both in appearance and energy level. And kitchen reno is close to complete. We will have pros coming next week to put up the kitchen cabinets and machinery. After that it is just cleaning and some finishing touches, skirtings and all that. I'm so ready to eat something I didn't made and freeze in February or early March. And even more ready not to do dishes in buckets at sauna benches. In fact I have found that I'm very fond of dish machines. All in all, things could be much worse. [/QUOTE]
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