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Let's Hope This Works: Reward Chart
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 305616" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Butterfly--</p><p> </p><p>My child would never NEVER have been able to accomplish those tasks at age 6....and her explosive tantrumming was the result of her frustration at not being able to do things the way that she wanted. So if it were my difficult child we were talking about, that chart would do nothing but set her up for failure....</p><p> </p><p>Even at age 14, getting dressed is still a hassle because she has fits about her clothing all the time and wants to argue about what is appropriate to wear....and so by that chart's accounting, she would lose the ten points for getting dressed AND the ten points for not having a temper tantrum in the morning--which would frustrate her even more--surely leading to a temper tantrum in the car (which is minus another 10 points) and/or taking out her anger on her brother (minus 10 points).</p><p> </p><p>If your child is having trouble accomplishing these tasks and controlling his emotions--is it really because you have never offered him a sufficient reward for behaving? I would say probably not...</p><p> </p><p>So try the behavior chart as the therapist recommends--but DOCUMENT whether it has any impact on your child's behavior. Then when you return to the therapist you can either report that the chart gave your child the reward/punishment structure that he needed....OR you can report that faithfully following the chart system did not have an impact.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck! Let us know how it goes...</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyFace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 305616, member: 6546"] Butterfly-- My child would never NEVER have been able to accomplish those tasks at age 6....and her explosive tantrumming was the result of her frustration at not being able to do things the way that she wanted. So if it were my difficult child we were talking about, that chart would do nothing but set her up for failure.... Even at age 14, getting dressed is still a hassle because she has fits about her clothing all the time and wants to argue about what is appropriate to wear....and so by that chart's accounting, she would lose the ten points for getting dressed AND the ten points for not having a temper tantrum in the morning--which would frustrate her even more--surely leading to a temper tantrum in the car (which is minus another 10 points) and/or taking out her anger on her brother (minus 10 points). If your child is having trouble accomplishing these tasks and controlling his emotions--is it really because you have never offered him a sufficient reward for behaving? I would say probably not... So try the behavior chart as the therapist recommends--but DOCUMENT whether it has any impact on your child's behavior. Then when you return to the therapist you can either report that the chart gave your child the reward/punishment structure that he needed....OR you can report that faithfully following the chart system did not have an impact. Good luck! Let us know how it goes... --DaisyFace [/QUOTE]
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