This may not help? But it might.
Really? This is a huge challenge. It is. For this person, at this time in his life, this is huge. It is the hugeness of the chance that has him scared. If he cannot do this...what is left for him, how could he face trying again?
No wonder he is anxious.
Anyone, anyone in all the world, would be so scared of failing, and of what it would mean to fail now, that they could talk themselves into tossing in the towel before they get fired.
At least, then it was their choice, not a judgment about who they are.
So...what if you were to talk to him like that? Like, big challenge, true. Meet it, and the next one will be easier. If you don't meet it this time?
You will learn from this one and do better, next time.
These emotions are real to us when we are in it. I can remember being so nervous at every new job that it's a wonder I functioned, at all. It wasn't until I was in supervisory positions myself that I got that piece.
We all feel like that, sometimes.
difficult child's heart is on the line on this one. I would be the first person to forget where the stupid baloney was, I just know it!
:O)
Cedar
