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Letter to my son
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<blockquote data-quote="Scott_G" data-source="post: 614354" data-attributes="member: 16626"><p>The only way to get him to understand is by following through with the consequences you set forth. If you keep giving in, he knows it and will use it to his advantage and call your bluff every single time. But you need to be prepared for the backlash. If he actually begins to believe that this time you actually mean it, he's not going along quietly. Be prepared for him to take things up a notch. His behavior may become abusive and/or he may start to lay on the guilt trip. Over the years, when we pushed back our son would sometimes get angry. He would tell us how nobody loved him or cared for him, we were terrible parents, we gave up on him, etc, etc. He threatend to kill himself if we kicked us out, and he would make comments like "I hope you feel good about yourself this winter when I am sleeping on the streets." Sometimes they will even tell you that they never want to talk to you again, as if somehow not subjecting you to their childish behavior is punsihing you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scott_G, post: 614354, member: 16626"] The only way to get him to understand is by following through with the consequences you set forth. If you keep giving in, he knows it and will use it to his advantage and call your bluff every single time. But you need to be prepared for the backlash. If he actually begins to believe that this time you actually mean it, he's not going along quietly. Be prepared for him to take things up a notch. His behavior may become abusive and/or he may start to lay on the guilt trip. Over the years, when we pushed back our son would sometimes get angry. He would tell us how nobody loved him or cared for him, we were terrible parents, we gave up on him, etc, etc. He threatend to kill himself if we kicked us out, and he would make comments like "I hope you feel good about yourself this winter when I am sleeping on the streets." Sometimes they will even tell you that they never want to talk to you again, as if somehow not subjecting you to their childish behavior is punsihing you. [/QUOTE]
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