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<blockquote data-quote="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow" data-source="post: 505181" data-attributes="member: 8405"><p>I appreciate everyone's input. I'm most comfortable following what I have the most peace about... and that is educating myself as much as I can about our adoptees "brand" of mental illness in its adult form, and waiting for them to show they are ready/willing/able to move toward health.</p><p></p><p>I promise I will NOT be "hanging-up-my-life-staring-at-our-front-door-waiting-on-them"... I've been getting out there... enjoying MY life, enjoying the empty nest season with my dear hubby, enjoying the reciprocally loving relationship with our adult bio daughter... Living/hoping/praying waiting for our kids to heal but not hanging my happily ever after on their progress. </p><p></p><p>I really believe our adoptees have embarked on a journey that is their own to walk. I don't think it's profitable at this point to pursue them. I don't know that I could trust them, be physically safe in their presence, before they begin to show strong signs of healing. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I've written in the margins of that book near the letters portion... "not yet.... not never... but not yet"</p><p></p><p>Our adoptees should learn eventually that they are to be responsible for 50% of any relationship they have. They are quite capable of surrounding themselves with rescuers until they wear them out and find new ones. That's not what I hope for them... but it is their choice to make. </p><p></p><p><strong>MidwestMom</strong> ... I had been wondering how the meeting went with your son... Last time I was on these boards I believe it was supposed to have happened in the not too distance future. If you've posted about the meeting I'd love to read it. I've gone back through your posts you're an active poster with lots of wisdom/experience to share... can't easily find where you might have shared about the meeting specifically. I'd love it if you could direct me to any posts you've made on the subject after the meeting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow, post: 505181, member: 8405"] I appreciate everyone's input. I'm most comfortable following what I have the most peace about... and that is educating myself as much as I can about our adoptees "brand" of mental illness in its adult form, and waiting for them to show they are ready/willing/able to move toward health. I promise I will NOT be "hanging-up-my-life-staring-at-our-front-door-waiting-on-them"... I've been getting out there... enjoying MY life, enjoying the empty nest season with my dear hubby, enjoying the reciprocally loving relationship with our adult bio daughter... Living/hoping/praying waiting for our kids to heal but not hanging my happily ever after on their progress. I really believe our adoptees have embarked on a journey that is their own to walk. I don't think it's profitable at this point to pursue them. I don't know that I could trust them, be physically safe in their presence, before they begin to show strong signs of healing. I've written in the margins of that book near the letters portion... "not yet.... not never... but not yet" Our adoptees should learn eventually that they are to be responsible for 50% of any relationship they have. They are quite capable of surrounding themselves with rescuers until they wear them out and find new ones. That's not what I hope for them... but it is their choice to make. [B]MidwestMom[/B] ... I had been wondering how the meeting went with your son... Last time I was on these boards I believe it was supposed to have happened in the not too distance future. If you've posted about the meeting I'd love to read it. I've gone back through your posts you're an active poster with lots of wisdom/experience to share... can't easily find where you might have shared about the meeting specifically. I'd love it if you could direct me to any posts you've made on the subject after the meeting. [/QUOTE]
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