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If you take "focus on the outcome" to the extreme, you get "the end justifies the means". Which is where some of "our" kids are at. And where I never want to be.

 

Therefore... process matters. But process doesn't guarantee outcome.  Guess what? putting the focus on the outcome doesn't guarantee the outcome either.

 

I am (just starting to) learn how to re-define the outcome. Not "difficult child being healthy" but "difficult child being as healthy as possible", for example. Then... I can focus on the process, because the outcome is defined as "fuzzy". Anything toward that goal is positive.

 

And yes, I'm a process person.  The process HAS to be right. As in absolutely right. Which gets me into a LOT of trouble ;)


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