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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 590712" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>I reread everyone's answers this morning. Last night, I read the answers that had come in to husband.</p><p></p><p>Though I had told him before how similar our stories are, he was amazed to learn that for himself, to know other parents have survived what is happening to us, now.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>So, here is what happened: difficult child called three or four times. We did not answer. Truthfully? We would have caved, had we answered then. husband especially was in that shocky place you get to when you have done something that goes against your principles. He kept saying how he resented having been boxed into being that father who does not help his daughter. He said again and again that this is not who he is. He talked about the certainty of difficult child's death, whether last night or in the coming days or weeks. </p><p></p><p>As I mentioned earlier, this is the first time husband has not given money.</p><p></p><p>The first time, ever.</p><p></p><p>He is still shaken this morning. It is a hard thing for a father. Harder than it is for me, I think. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, we did finally answer difficult child's call. She behaved as though nothing had happened earlier. Said she (they) were at the casino (too late now for the shelter). They had nowhere to go. Snow coming. Need Dad to rent cheap motel room for her over the phone. Just a cheap one. So they didn't freeze to death. No blankets, no food, nowhere to go.</p><p></p><p>I put husband on the phone.</p><p></p><p>Know what he did? Stuck right to his guns. Yelled that difficult child had betrayed us, betrayed her own children. That she had chosen to be where she is and that he didn't like it and would never help her again until she was doing the right things.</p><p></p><p>Then he handed the phone to me!</p><p></p><p>The chicken.</p><p></p><p>So, being a chicken myself, I hung up.</p><p></p><p>I can't hold it together when difficult child cries.</p><p></p><p>So, that is what happened last night.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 590712, member: 1721"] I reread everyone's answers this morning. Last night, I read the answers that had come in to husband. Though I had told him before how similar our stories are, he was amazed to learn that for himself, to know other parents have survived what is happening to us, now. :O) So, here is what happened: difficult child called three or four times. We did not answer. Truthfully? We would have caved, had we answered then. husband especially was in that shocky place you get to when you have done something that goes against your principles. He kept saying how he resented having been boxed into being that father who does not help his daughter. He said again and again that this is not who he is. He talked about the certainty of difficult child's death, whether last night or in the coming days or weeks. As I mentioned earlier, this is the first time husband has not given money. The first time, ever. He is still shaken this morning. It is a hard thing for a father. Harder than it is for me, I think. Anyway, we did finally answer difficult child's call. She behaved as though nothing had happened earlier. Said she (they) were at the casino (too late now for the shelter). They had nowhere to go. Snow coming. Need Dad to rent cheap motel room for her over the phone. Just a cheap one. So they didn't freeze to death. No blankets, no food, nowhere to go. I put husband on the phone. Know what he did? Stuck right to his guns. Yelled that difficult child had betrayed us, betrayed her own children. That she had chosen to be where she is and that he didn't like it and would never help her again until she was doing the right things. Then he handed the phone to me! The chicken. So, being a chicken myself, I hung up. I can't hold it together when difficult child cries. So, that is what happened last night. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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