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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 590890" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Thanks, everyone.</p><p></p><p>Skotti, you make me smile. I can't believe you survived all that. That's terrible! What a funny, courageous lady you must be. :O) I'm glad you made it. Your poor parents!!!</p><p></p><p>****************</p><p></p><p>So, last night, we caved. Agreed to do a room for the night. The second we agreed to that? She wanted it for two nights.</p><p></p><p>I mean the second the words were out of my mouth. </p><p></p><p>So, we hung up and turned the phone off, like the cowards we are. (Not proud of that.) We wondered how we could say no, we weren't going to pay for a motel after the first two nights when we couldn't even say no, you can't have two nights to start with. Decided we had to say no at some point, and that it might as well be this one. That is why we didn't turn the phone back on.</p><p></p><p>Neither of us slept well.</p><p></p><p>This morning, I called the shelter in that city again. I told him difficult child said they lock you in at 4 p.m. and don't open the door again until 9 a.m., and that no one checks on the women and it isn't a safe place. He admitted they only have one volunteer willing to do night shifts, and he is a male. </p><p></p><p>So, he watches over the men, not the women.</p><p></p><p>Which was the final straw in deciding to try to find her something for the next few weeks.</p><p></p><p>So, I began calling around this morning to find somewhere to rent for her. You won't believe this one: she is on the "do not rent to" list for both the horrible, run down places she rented when she first blew into town with money. </p><p></p><p>So now, even if we were to find somewhere for her for two or three weeks (until we get home)...who knows how much there might be in damages by the time she was evicted? (Which is just what happened to her in the apartment we co-signed for last summer, and in both the run-down dive hotels she rented for herself when she still had money. One before she was forced into treatment, and one, after she left treatment AMA.)</p><p></p><p>Looks like this explains where all her tax return money went. How horrible, really. When I think of all the other things she might have done with that money, it just makes me sick.</p><p></p><p>And remember when I told you she had been in that car accident, and that she has a lacerated liver. She should not even be walking around yet, let alone drinking and drugging.</p><p></p><p>So we really are looking at the possibility that she isn't going to make it so much longer.</p><p></p><p>It will be like the end to a very sad story.</p><p></p><p>And yet? You would have been amazed to see the incredible ability she had to reach adolescents as a teacher. She was amazing. Such a puzzle, and such a loss...</p><p></p><p>The only thing I knew left to do was to call 211. They told me to have her call them herself. (difficult child does have a calling card that we are keeping charged up.)</p><p></p><p>For anyone reading this, remember that 211 number will connect you with emergency social services, and/or with someone who will listen to your own concerns about your child. 211 is a nation-wide number. I believe it is toll-free.</p><p></p><p>Another nation-wide helping organization you may not know about is Lutheran Social Services. They work with young adults, not grown ups like difficult child.</p><p></p><p>This certainly is a hard time. </p><p></p><p>It helps to post, though. </p><p></p><p>I was reading someone else's post this morning. She was posting about how terrible this feels. Boy, it sure does.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 590890, member: 1721"] Thanks, everyone. Skotti, you make me smile. I can't believe you survived all that. That's terrible! What a funny, courageous lady you must be. :O) I'm glad you made it. Your poor parents!!! **************** So, last night, we caved. Agreed to do a room for the night. The second we agreed to that? She wanted it for two nights. I mean the second the words were out of my mouth. So, we hung up and turned the phone off, like the cowards we are. (Not proud of that.) We wondered how we could say no, we weren't going to pay for a motel after the first two nights when we couldn't even say no, you can't have two nights to start with. Decided we had to say no at some point, and that it might as well be this one. That is why we didn't turn the phone back on. Neither of us slept well. This morning, I called the shelter in that city again. I told him difficult child said they lock you in at 4 p.m. and don't open the door again until 9 a.m., and that no one checks on the women and it isn't a safe place. He admitted they only have one volunteer willing to do night shifts, and he is a male. So, he watches over the men, not the women. Which was the final straw in deciding to try to find her something for the next few weeks. So, I began calling around this morning to find somewhere to rent for her. You won't believe this one: she is on the "do not rent to" list for both the horrible, run down places she rented when she first blew into town with money. So now, even if we were to find somewhere for her for two or three weeks (until we get home)...who knows how much there might be in damages by the time she was evicted? (Which is just what happened to her in the apartment we co-signed for last summer, and in both the run-down dive hotels she rented for herself when she still had money. One before she was forced into treatment, and one, after she left treatment AMA.) Looks like this explains where all her tax return money went. How horrible, really. When I think of all the other things she might have done with that money, it just makes me sick. And remember when I told you she had been in that car accident, and that she has a lacerated liver. She should not even be walking around yet, let alone drinking and drugging. So we really are looking at the possibility that she isn't going to make it so much longer. It will be like the end to a very sad story. And yet? You would have been amazed to see the incredible ability she had to reach adolescents as a teacher. She was amazing. Such a puzzle, and such a loss... The only thing I knew left to do was to call 211. They told me to have her call them herself. (difficult child does have a calling card that we are keeping charged up.) For anyone reading this, remember that 211 number will connect you with emergency social services, and/or with someone who will listen to your own concerns about your child. 211 is a nation-wide number. I believe it is toll-free. Another nation-wide helping organization you may not know about is Lutheran Social Services. They work with young adults, not grown ups like difficult child. This certainly is a hard time. It helps to post, though. I was reading someone else's post this morning. She was posting about how terrible this feels. Boy, it sure does. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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