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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 760499" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Confused, I'm sorry for all you're going through. It hurts when false truths are said about us but someone else pointed out to continue on the high road. I would not bad-mouth your ex to your son but sit him down and let him know that not everything your ex says is the truth and you are counting on him to keep that in mind if he chooses to go live with him. Of course, I don't know this for a fact but my perspective is that the anything goes attitude will end in a short period. There will be a "honeymoon" type period where it will feels like the guys got it under control but it is inevidible that your son will begin to push the boundaries and let's face it he will not like even the slightest bit of discipline and will realize this isn't what he thought it would be. </p><p></p><p>Also, having lived with an alcoholic husband for years and years their true colors do not take long to shine through. The ugliness of the drinking and their ability to say and do anything while drunk leaves loved ones hurt while the alcoholic doesn't apologize or even remember what they did or said. Sadly enough, it will quickly turn from rainbows and sunshine to the reality that this disease brings.</p><p></p><p>Again, my perspective, but even if your son opts to live with him, I don't feel it will be for long. You will then have some work to do getting him back in line but I wouldn't give up hope yet.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 760499, member: 23405"] Confused, I'm sorry for all you're going through. It hurts when false truths are said about us but someone else pointed out to continue on the high road. I would not bad-mouth your ex to your son but sit him down and let him know that not everything your ex says is the truth and you are counting on him to keep that in mind if he chooses to go live with him. Of course, I don't know this for a fact but my perspective is that the anything goes attitude will end in a short period. There will be a "honeymoon" type period where it will feels like the guys got it under control but it is inevidible that your son will begin to push the boundaries and let's face it he will not like even the slightest bit of discipline and will realize this isn't what he thought it would be. Also, having lived with an alcoholic husband for years and years their true colors do not take long to shine through. The ugliness of the drinking and their ability to say and do anything while drunk leaves loved ones hurt while the alcoholic doesn't apologize or even remember what they did or said. Sadly enough, it will quickly turn from rainbows and sunshine to the reality that this disease brings. Again, my perspective, but even if your son opts to live with him, I don't feel it will be for long. You will then have some work to do getting him back in line but I wouldn't give up hope yet. [/QUOTE]
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