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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760501" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am chiming in late. Do you have sole legal custody, or is it shared? Even if it is shared, doesn't the court have to approve a change? If your ex has shared custody and an arrangement already approved by the court, I don't see you have much of a choice, unless you fight it. And if your ex has so many problems, perhaps it is the best thing to fight this? I don't put all the weight on what your son wants although it is a factor. You're the parent, and in your eyes, this could be dangerous and damaging to him. If he was 18, that would be another story. I went to live with my Dad, (similar) to your ex) when I was 18 or 19. It was a disaster. And I left. But your son at 15 Is more vulnerable, with less capacity to evaluate a situation, by virtue of his age, and his gender. Boys mature later.</p><p></p><p>I would not hesitate to fight this, if that is what you think is in the interests of your son. The custody status, legally speaking, will determine the range of options. What your son "wants" is only one factor. What he needs, and what the law says, also matters.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry for the distress this is causing.</p><p></p><p>PS I agree with the counsel Nandina gave you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760501, member: 18958"] I am chiming in late. Do you have sole legal custody, or is it shared? Even if it is shared, doesn't the court have to approve a change? If your ex has shared custody and an arrangement already approved by the court, I don't see you have much of a choice, unless you fight it. And if your ex has so many problems, perhaps it is the best thing to fight this? I don't put all the weight on what your son wants although it is a factor. You're the parent, and in your eyes, this could be dangerous and damaging to him. If he was 18, that would be another story. I went to live with my Dad, (similar) to your ex) when I was 18 or 19. It was a disaster. And I left. But your son at 15 Is more vulnerable, with less capacity to evaluate a situation, by virtue of his age, and his gender. Boys mature later. I would not hesitate to fight this, if that is what you think is in the interests of your son. The custody status, legally speaking, will determine the range of options. What your son "wants" is only one factor. What he needs, and what the law says, also matters. I am very sorry for the distress this is causing. PS I agree with the counsel Nandina gave you. [/QUOTE]
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