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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 723154" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Why has someone not gotten CPS involved? Is there not some way you can get allegations of abuse by the brother in to CPS? Or neglect by the father? Or both? They would HAVE to be investigated and that takes time. Of course the wagons would circle around the father or D S, but something would be on record. I would likely find a phone booth and make the call anonymously. But only if you can forever keep your mouth shut regardless of the fallout. It can get ugly for a while. </p><p></p><p>Maybe it would be best if you just kept yourself out of this part of this situation. Nothing you say is really going to do anything to improve the situation. They won't listen to you. I think they have proved that. They will probably turn on you for anything that you do, at least for a while. Your wife may apologize for it later, mostly because we tend to lash out at the ones we love when we are at our lowest levels of control. I am sorry that they are using this as yet another opportunity to have a Scream-Fest. How do they not understand that the future of this child is what they are dealing with? All their yelling and screaming about what "they" want and what is best for "their" rights and beliefs does NOT take into account that this child is in free fall and will be back in free fall if he is left alone with his deranged brother again. It just will be that way.</p><p></p><p>Trust me. I know. I never got as far as your Y S did. I always managed to find a reason to talk myself out of it at the last moment. Or a reason to kill my brother rather than myself. My mother still won't accept that it was that bad, truly that my life was in danger back then. She feels I overreact to conflict. I may. That doesn't mean that he didn't hold knives at my throat and guns at my head. </p><p></p><p>So I know what it is like to keep secrets about your sibling from your parents. The father would not believe Y S because if he believed him, he would have to do something. I have been there done that with my own parents. He may have freedom, but he is living with people he does not trust. I was smart enough to know I needed someone to set limits and to ask for them. Most teens are not that self aware. I don't know if he would end up appreciating the limits once he had them or not. I don't know him and how spoiled he is. Or the limits your wife would set. I do think he will end up hurting himself or being seriously hurt by his brother in the future if you don't separate these boys. I just don't know that you have the power to do anything in this situation. </p><p></p><p>It can svck to be a step parent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 723154, member: 1233"] Why has someone not gotten CPS involved? Is there not some way you can get allegations of abuse by the brother in to CPS? Or neglect by the father? Or both? They would HAVE to be investigated and that takes time. Of course the wagons would circle around the father or D S, but something would be on record. I would likely find a phone booth and make the call anonymously. But only if you can forever keep your mouth shut regardless of the fallout. It can get ugly for a while. Maybe it would be best if you just kept yourself out of this part of this situation. Nothing you say is really going to do anything to improve the situation. They won't listen to you. I think they have proved that. They will probably turn on you for anything that you do, at least for a while. Your wife may apologize for it later, mostly because we tend to lash out at the ones we love when we are at our lowest levels of control. I am sorry that they are using this as yet another opportunity to have a Scream-Fest. How do they not understand that the future of this child is what they are dealing with? All their yelling and screaming about what "they" want and what is best for "their" rights and beliefs does NOT take into account that this child is in free fall and will be back in free fall if he is left alone with his deranged brother again. It just will be that way. Trust me. I know. I never got as far as your Y S did. I always managed to find a reason to talk myself out of it at the last moment. Or a reason to kill my brother rather than myself. My mother still won't accept that it was that bad, truly that my life was in danger back then. She feels I overreact to conflict. I may. That doesn't mean that he didn't hold knives at my throat and guns at my head. So I know what it is like to keep secrets about your sibling from your parents. The father would not believe Y S because if he believed him, he would have to do something. I have been there done that with my own parents. He may have freedom, but he is living with people he does not trust. I was smart enough to know I needed someone to set limits and to ask for them. Most teens are not that self aware. I don't know if he would end up appreciating the limits once he had them or not. I don't know him and how spoiled he is. Or the limits your wife would set. I do think he will end up hurting himself or being seriously hurt by his brother in the future if you don't separate these boys. I just don't know that you have the power to do anything in this situation. It can svck to be a step parent. [/QUOTE]
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