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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 638868" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Well, maybe he will go and it will work out. He seems to land on his feet all the time in spite of his issues. </p><p></p><p>Like so many of our kids, he likely doesn't have an ability for 'future thinking', his life is lived in the immediate NOW, no thoughts of tomorrow and how he will work it all out. That usually puts us in the nasty position of having to do ALL of <em>their f</em>uture thinking for them. We worry, try to figure it out, try to avert catastrophe, so we endlessly live in their future trying to work out the details, while they are happily or at least simply living in the moment.........and our present moments are wracked with fears and worries for their futures. That's a thought pattern that becomes our reality after awhile..........we're not living in <em>our</em> present moment and enjoying <em>our</em> own lives, we're living in <em>their</em> future. </p><p></p><p>I did that for a long time JKF. And then I realized it doesn't work. All I was doing was worrying. Worrying didn't change anything at all, but it was successfully robbing me of my life, minute to minute. Instead of being in my present moment, I was worrying about what might happen to my daughter..........someday.........</p><p></p><p>Whatever he does he's gonna do. It probably would be better if he was far away. I think many of us share that feeling JKF, you're not alone. But whatever he does, make an intention now to let it go, don't take any more of your precious moments and give them away to your difficult child's future..........he is in charge of that..............and he is going to do whatever he wants to do.............</p><p></p><p>As you said, "he knows the ropes." He really does. That's his world. His choice. </p><p></p><p>While he's looking into traveling, do some kind and fun things for yourself..........every day. </p><p></p><p>Sending warm hugs...........hope you have a good book and a cozy night.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 638868, member: 13542"] Well, maybe he will go and it will work out. He seems to land on his feet all the time in spite of his issues. Like so many of our kids, he likely doesn't have an ability for 'future thinking', his life is lived in the immediate NOW, no thoughts of tomorrow and how he will work it all out. That usually puts us in the nasty position of having to do ALL of [I]their f[/I]uture thinking for them. We worry, try to figure it out, try to avert catastrophe, so we endlessly live in their future trying to work out the details, while they are happily or at least simply living in the moment.........and our present moments are wracked with fears and worries for their futures. That's a thought pattern that becomes our reality after awhile..........we're not living in [I]our[/I] present moment and enjoying [I]our[/I] own lives, we're living in [I]their[/I] future. I did that for a long time JKF. And then I realized it doesn't work. All I was doing was worrying. Worrying didn't change anything at all, but it was successfully robbing me of my life, minute to minute. Instead of being in my present moment, I was worrying about what might happen to my daughter..........someday......... Whatever he does he's gonna do. It probably would be better if he was far away. I think many of us share that feeling JKF, you're not alone. But whatever he does, make an intention now to let it go, don't take any more of your precious moments and give them away to your difficult child's future..........he is in charge of that..............and he is going to do whatever he wants to do............. As you said, "he knows the ropes." He really does. That's his world. His choice. While he's looking into traveling, do some kind and fun things for yourself..........every day. Sending warm hugs...........hope you have a good book and a cozy night. [/QUOTE]
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