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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 609007" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Both of my boys did tell stories, maybe not to that extent (in frequency), but around J's age (mostly when 4 to 6 with easy child if I remember correctly and little longer with my always immature difficult child, which started to cause him problems in peer relationships ), there were lots of stories. Often stories they were heroes at. And they did claim them to be true. easy child did easier admit that maybe they were not completely true, but difficult child often needed some time. And if asked in the wrong way, did stick to his story. But if we listened and answered in noncommittal manner first ( I mean with 'Oh, really?', 'That sounds interesting', 'That was quite an experience, I bet' and so on) and then talked with him again about it few hours later, he did admit it was a story. Of course we often did not do that but just listened and stayed noncommittal. But at times there were things middle of the stories that we had to actually find out the truth about. With difficult child we even had to work out the concepts of 'should-be-the-truth' and 'adults'-truth'. With easy child we could even call stories either stories or him bluffing us and he didn't get angry. With difficult child we had to also warn him about telling the should-be-the-truth much to his peers when he started school because it would cause him trouble. He of course didn't take an advice and peers, who were more mature and over the storytelling phase already started to consider him a liar early on, which has been a disadvantage till these days. </p><p></p><p>What i know kids, story telling is common and normal. Extent does vary and if you feel J doesn't often really know the difference between what happened and what is his make-a-believe or if he is doing it all the time or if it is interfering with his peer relationships, I would consider taking him to see an experienced paediatric psychiatric. For them the difference between what is normal and what is a cause for worrying is likely much more clear. </p><p></p><p>Fascination with weapons and knives I consider also quite normal to young boys till certain extent. Both my boys and most of the other boys I know have been interested. Not all, but to me it has seemed as common as for example interest to dinosaurs in certain age is and to fishing in few years later.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 609007, member: 14557"] Both of my boys did tell stories, maybe not to that extent (in frequency), but around J's age (mostly when 4 to 6 with easy child if I remember correctly and little longer with my always immature difficult child, which started to cause him problems in peer relationships ), there were lots of stories. Often stories they were heroes at. And they did claim them to be true. easy child did easier admit that maybe they were not completely true, but difficult child often needed some time. And if asked in the wrong way, did stick to his story. But if we listened and answered in noncommittal manner first ( I mean with 'Oh, really?', 'That sounds interesting', 'That was quite an experience, I bet' and so on) and then talked with him again about it few hours later, he did admit it was a story. Of course we often did not do that but just listened and stayed noncommittal. But at times there were things middle of the stories that we had to actually find out the truth about. With difficult child we even had to work out the concepts of 'should-be-the-truth' and 'adults'-truth'. With easy child we could even call stories either stories or him bluffing us and he didn't get angry. With difficult child we had to also warn him about telling the should-be-the-truth much to his peers when he started school because it would cause him trouble. He of course didn't take an advice and peers, who were more mature and over the storytelling phase already started to consider him a liar early on, which has been a disadvantage till these days. What i know kids, story telling is common and normal. Extent does vary and if you feel J doesn't often really know the difference between what happened and what is his make-a-believe or if he is doing it all the time or if it is interfering with his peer relationships, I would consider taking him to see an experienced paediatric psychiatric. For them the difference between what is normal and what is a cause for worrying is likely much more clear. Fascination with weapons and knives I consider also quite normal to young boys till certain extent. Both my boys and most of the other boys I know have been interested. Not all, but to me it has seemed as common as for example interest to dinosaurs in certain age is and to fishing in few years later. [/QUOTE]
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