Tough choice, Echo. Yours and his. Detachment doesn't mean you don't love, don't care, don't worry. It means you allow natural consequences to take over. You allow him to choose the life he wants. But you choose to not be involved in what you see as dangerous, as illegal, as manipulative. It's hard on a parent to do this. It's hard not to try and fix. I like to compare my difficult child to my 2 pcs. (Although I know a lot of folks say you shouldn't compare). If one on the pcs call with an emergency, I jump. They rarely call, they are stable, self-sufficient adults. With difficult child, it's always an emergency, a problem he wants me to fix. I have learned by saying no, he is slowly growing. But I still cringe when his name pops up on my phone 
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