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Long, long journey to acceptance (swiped from a line by COM on another thread)
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 629160" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Oh Echo, I'm so sorry you are hurting so right now. I can't add anything worthwhile to the wonderful posts by Cedar and COM. This is such a crucial time of change for you. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That hurts. You are like the linchpin on a very complicated piece of machinery, THE crucial piece on which all the processes center around. </p><p></p><p>Maybe they need to learn what to do and be less anxious about doing it. </p><p></p><p>Or maybe they just can't believe you don't want to be the linchpin anymore because to them it is a fundamental part of who you are.</p><p></p><p>I think most, if not all, of the moms here were and still can be magnificent fixers. COM is right, we're REALLY GOOD at it, aren't we? We have had to hone skills that most moms only dream of. People came to depend on it. And in my case, I liked it. It really gave me a sense of purpose, to be the one who could fix those epic messes.</p><p></p><p>Maybe things would have been worse for my son if I wasn't such a fixer. I certainly thought so at the time. Or maybe it would have had the opposite effect. Who knows? But it isn't good for either one of us now. </p><p></p><p>I don't know where that place is for you, Echo, where to put your fence right now. Part of me wants to say stand firm no matter what. I know that I pulled off some pretty magnificent saves, if I do say so myself, in my efforts to save my son from himself. Stuff I never knew I was capable of. And I wonder what my son WOULD have been capable of, if I had let him work through his garbage. </p><p></p><p>The other part of me wants to say if he is crumbling and if there is a way to give him a little boost without feeling crappy yourself, do that. </p><p></p><p>I move my fence just about every day, sometimes one minute to the next. </p><p></p><p>I'm just so sorry you are going through this right now. I'm so grateful we have each other here at this place.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 629160, member: 17720"] Oh Echo, I'm so sorry you are hurting so right now. I can't add anything worthwhile to the wonderful posts by Cedar and COM. This is such a crucial time of change for you. That hurts. You are like the linchpin on a very complicated piece of machinery, THE crucial piece on which all the processes center around. Maybe they need to learn what to do and be less anxious about doing it. Or maybe they just can't believe you don't want to be the linchpin anymore because to them it is a fundamental part of who you are. I think most, if not all, of the moms here were and still can be magnificent fixers. COM is right, we're REALLY GOOD at it, aren't we? We have had to hone skills that most moms only dream of. People came to depend on it. And in my case, I liked it. It really gave me a sense of purpose, to be the one who could fix those epic messes. Maybe things would have been worse for my son if I wasn't such a fixer. I certainly thought so at the time. Or maybe it would have had the opposite effect. Who knows? But it isn't good for either one of us now. I don't know where that place is for you, Echo, where to put your fence right now. Part of me wants to say stand firm no matter what. I know that I pulled off some pretty magnificent saves, if I do say so myself, in my efforts to save my son from himself. Stuff I never knew I was capable of. And I wonder what my son WOULD have been capable of, if I had let him work through his garbage. The other part of me wants to say if he is crumbling and if there is a way to give him a little boost without feeling crappy yourself, do that. I move my fence just about every day, sometimes one minute to the next. I'm just so sorry you are going through this right now. I'm so grateful we have each other here at this place. [/QUOTE]
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