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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 721408" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry you had to deal with him while he was acting like that. You never know what he would have done to you while he was ranting like that. The only safe choice you could have made that night was to call the cops. </p><p></p><p>This is an ugly tale, but there is a reason I am telling it.</p><p></p><p>Many years ago, in the town I live in, there was a mentally ill man I will call CB. He used to go to his mom and stepdad's trailer and often his behavior was erratic. He could not live with them for many of the reasons your son cannot live with you. Most of the time CB would just stand outside and yell at them about stuff, but sometimes he broke stuff. Then one day CB wanted money. He couldn't get anyone to give him an odd job that day to earn it because it was two days before payday. The 3rd time he went to his mom's trailer, she told him she would call the cops if he came back yelling and breaking things. </p><p></p><p>Sadly CB came back a 4th time. No one knew he had a gun. He went to the trailer and shot his mom because she wouldn't give him any money for beer. He ransacked her house to find any money or change. Then he went to his stepdad's work and shot a few other people. It turned into a big standoff in a field where CB had climbed up into a tree for some reason. The ordeal ended when CB shot himself. </p><p></p><p>I didn't make this up. I was in high school when this happened, but it left a HUGE impact on me. You just never know what one of our kids is going to do, and when they are that angry, it is better to let someone else handle them.</p><p></p><p>Your son is choosing to be where he is. He could choose to live in a comfortable dwelling. All he has to do is choose to follow rules. Basic ones that everyone else follows. He chooses to live rough, without a home. It is hard for you, but you need to figure out how to make it be less hard for you. The hardship has to be on him. Otherwise he won't change. </p><p></p><p>Is it just me, or does anyone else want to laugh when a difficult child goes on rant about how independent they are in one breath. Then in the next breath they tell you that you have to take them here and buy them this and provide the other thing for them. If they are so independent, why do we have to do anything for them? I asked Wiz about this once. He spluttered and stammered and told me I just didn't understand the meaning of true independence.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 721408, member: 1233"] I am so sorry you had to deal with him while he was acting like that. You never know what he would have done to you while he was ranting like that. The only safe choice you could have made that night was to call the cops. This is an ugly tale, but there is a reason I am telling it. Many years ago, in the town I live in, there was a mentally ill man I will call CB. He used to go to his mom and stepdad's trailer and often his behavior was erratic. He could not live with them for many of the reasons your son cannot live with you. Most of the time CB would just stand outside and yell at them about stuff, but sometimes he broke stuff. Then one day CB wanted money. He couldn't get anyone to give him an odd job that day to earn it because it was two days before payday. The 3rd time he went to his mom's trailer, she told him she would call the cops if he came back yelling and breaking things. Sadly CB came back a 4th time. No one knew he had a gun. He went to the trailer and shot his mom because she wouldn't give him any money for beer. He ransacked her house to find any money or change. Then he went to his stepdad's work and shot a few other people. It turned into a big standoff in a field where CB had climbed up into a tree for some reason. The ordeal ended when CB shot himself. I didn't make this up. I was in high school when this happened, but it left a HUGE impact on me. You just never know what one of our kids is going to do, and when they are that angry, it is better to let someone else handle them. Your son is choosing to be where he is. He could choose to live in a comfortable dwelling. All he has to do is choose to follow rules. Basic ones that everyone else follows. He chooses to live rough, without a home. It is hard for you, but you need to figure out how to make it be less hard for you. The hardship has to be on him. Otherwise he won't change. Is it just me, or does anyone else want to laugh when a difficult child goes on rant about how independent they are in one breath. Then in the next breath they tell you that you have to take them here and buy them this and provide the other thing for them. If they are so independent, why do we have to do anything for them? I asked Wiz about this once. He spluttered and stammered and told me I just didn't understand the meaning of true independence. [/QUOTE]
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