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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 124799" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>If it were me, I'd let this trip drop, especially since she hasn't shown much self-driven enthusiasm for it. Frankly, my 11yo difficult child would not really be ready for something like this, and if he were just starting medications, I would be further hesitant to send him. There will be other opportunities, and by then her peers will have had time to adjust to the "new" social skills that she may develop now that she's on medications.</p><p> </p><p>In the mean time, I would suggest one-on-one play dates with the one or two kids whom you know would respond to an invitation. I'd keep the get together short and simple to maximize the chances for a positive experience. I've got two difficult child's with similar social issues. They don't get invited to parties, and the numbers that show to their birthday parties can be quite slim some years.</p><p> </p><p>The types of play-dates that have worked well for my boys are usually one-on-one, with some kind of non-competitive outdoor activity or quiet indoor activity planned -- a park outing for an hour or two of bikes or skateboards, a short nature hike in our hills, or inside our house for an hour or two of Pokemon/Yugioh card games or video games. It's just long enough for them to do something fun before anyone has a chance to get bored and start acting up.</p><p> </p><p>Something else we decided to do as a family to bolster the social network for all three kids is an annual Halloween party. The kids get to invite their class and/or sports team. We average about 60-75 kids (the party is held in three overlapping shifts, so they're not ALL there at once). We've done it the last three years and it's really done a lot to improve peer relations at school. I realize not everyone can weather an event like this, but it's another creative way to help reinforce a difficult child's social network. </p><p> </p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 124799, member: 3444"] If it were me, I'd let this trip drop, especially since she hasn't shown much self-driven enthusiasm for it. Frankly, my 11yo difficult child would not really be ready for something like this, and if he were just starting medications, I would be further hesitant to send him. There will be other opportunities, and by then her peers will have had time to adjust to the "new" social skills that she may develop now that she's on medications. In the mean time, I would suggest one-on-one play dates with the one or two kids whom you know would respond to an invitation. I'd keep the get together short and simple to maximize the chances for a positive experience. I've got two difficult child's with similar social issues. They don't get invited to parties, and the numbers that show to their birthday parties can be quite slim some years. The types of play-dates that have worked well for my boys are usually one-on-one, with some kind of non-competitive outdoor activity or quiet indoor activity planned -- a park outing for an hour or two of bikes or skateboards, a short nature hike in our hills, or inside our house for an hour or two of Pokemon/Yugioh card games or video games. It's just long enough for them to do something fun before anyone has a chance to get bored and start acting up. Something else we decided to do as a family to bolster the social network for all three kids is an annual Halloween party. The kids get to invite their class and/or sports team. We average about 60-75 kids (the party is held in three overlapping shifts, so they're not ALL there at once). We've done it the last three years and it's really done a lot to improve peer relations at school. I realize not everyone can weather an event like this, but it's another creative way to help reinforce a difficult child's social network. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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