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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 194906" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I'm beginning to think teens should just all be locked on an island and forced to find their own way. They sure don't want our help and they have all the answers anyway.</p><p> </p><p>My daughter tried being non-compliant with therapy. I gave her a choice -- no life or actively work with a therapist and that meant no game playing. By no life, I meant no going anywhere but school, no computer access except for homework with me sitting beside her, no television, no good stuff. It took about six months of this but she did give up and go to therapy. If the therapist told me she was not participating or playing games, she went back to no life until the next session. It did help her a little, at least once she found out that the therapist would only discuss whether she participated or if there was something truly dangerous going on.</p><p> </p><p>If your son is or was into firestarting, you might want to consider getting a full neuropsychologist evaluation for him. That sounds like more than ADHD going on and may well need medications to help him.</p><p> </p><p>Again, like yours, my daughter was a runner. Tell her no or that she had to do something she didn't want to and she was out the door 30 seconds later. I actually made her take her shoes off the second she walked in the door and I put them in my room which was locked. Of course, that only worked until she stole a pair of shoes and hid them outside.</p><p> </p><p>She did not use drugs but that's about the only thing she didn't do between ages 10 and 15. I finally gave up and mortgaged my life away and sent her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I honestly believe it saved her life. She's not perfect by any means but she is working, living on her own, making friends.</p><p> </p><p>I wish you luck on getting him on the right path. It is not easy. Some of us succeed, some of us don't. The best we can do is try our best and do what we can. Whether we like it or not, our kids have to be at least somewhat invested in wanting to change. One thing that is crucial is that all adults in his life be on the same page. Nothing works if one parent says yes while the other is saying no, especially when dealing with four parents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 194906, member: 3626"] I'm beginning to think teens should just all be locked on an island and forced to find their own way. They sure don't want our help and they have all the answers anyway. My daughter tried being non-compliant with therapy. I gave her a choice -- no life or actively work with a therapist and that meant no game playing. By no life, I meant no going anywhere but school, no computer access except for homework with me sitting beside her, no television, no good stuff. It took about six months of this but she did give up and go to therapy. If the therapist told me she was not participating or playing games, she went back to no life until the next session. It did help her a little, at least once she found out that the therapist would only discuss whether she participated or if there was something truly dangerous going on. If your son is or was into firestarting, you might want to consider getting a full neuropsychologist evaluation for him. That sounds like more than ADHD going on and may well need medications to help him. Again, like yours, my daughter was a runner. Tell her no or that she had to do something she didn't want to and she was out the door 30 seconds later. I actually made her take her shoes off the second she walked in the door and I put them in my room which was locked. Of course, that only worked until she stole a pair of shoes and hid them outside. She did not use drugs but that's about the only thing she didn't do between ages 10 and 15. I finally gave up and mortgaged my life away and sent her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I honestly believe it saved her life. She's not perfect by any means but she is working, living on her own, making friends. I wish you luck on getting him on the right path. It is not easy. Some of us succeed, some of us don't. The best we can do is try our best and do what we can. Whether we like it or not, our kids have to be at least somewhat invested in wanting to change. One thing that is crucial is that all adults in his life be on the same page. Nothing works if one parent says yes while the other is saying no, especially when dealing with four parents. [/QUOTE]
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