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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 530244" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>In many modern cultures carrying your infant/toddler around all day is simply a really bad idea. It might work for a percentage of stay at home moms, but I think there are valid reasons why it hasn't caught on. Most women these days work outside the home. Having an infant used to being held all the time is really hard on both the infant and caregiver when mom returns to work. When I ran a daycare, I dropped babies that couldn't adapt because I am but one person and there were other children that needed my attention just as much. </p><p></p><p>Babies need to have ample time after a certain age to explore and learn about the world around them. That's sort of hard to do with mom carrying them around in a sling all day. And I'm sorry but I just flat out don't agree with co-sleeping. Too many babies rushed to ERs from smothering or falling out of the bed to suit me. Not to mention the breaking the child from the parental bed at a later date. Or the fact that the child is the one that ends up with all the sound sleep and the parents are walking around yawning with dark circles under their eyes. </p><p></p><p>My kids were lavished with affection / attention without needing to be held/co sleep. I got a decent night's rest and had plenty of patience. I could sit them on the floor to play while I did something else or a playpen when I had household chores that made it difficult to keep them out of trouble. </p><p></p><p>in my opinion (for what it's worth) there are those parents who are basically just there, you know they have the child, feed it and care for it but do very little nurturing encouraging ect. That is one end of the spectrum. Then you have parents who use the sling and the co-sleep and all that theory......and basically smother the child in their presence/affection/attention. That is the other end of the spectrum. Then you have those that have found a balance where they can continue to have a life along with their parenting and still give their children all the affection/attention/nurturing/ guidance ect without having to be attached to them every second of the day. I was in the middle. (I'm talking "normal" parenting styles, not abusive parents)</p><p></p><p>Mickey's mother works and goes to school. This means Mickey has to be able to adapt to the environment of her caregivers when not with mom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 530244, member: 84"] In many modern cultures carrying your infant/toddler around all day is simply a really bad idea. It might work for a percentage of stay at home moms, but I think there are valid reasons why it hasn't caught on. Most women these days work outside the home. Having an infant used to being held all the time is really hard on both the infant and caregiver when mom returns to work. When I ran a daycare, I dropped babies that couldn't adapt because I am but one person and there were other children that needed my attention just as much. Babies need to have ample time after a certain age to explore and learn about the world around them. That's sort of hard to do with mom carrying them around in a sling all day. And I'm sorry but I just flat out don't agree with co-sleeping. Too many babies rushed to ERs from smothering or falling out of the bed to suit me. Not to mention the breaking the child from the parental bed at a later date. Or the fact that the child is the one that ends up with all the sound sleep and the parents are walking around yawning with dark circles under their eyes. My kids were lavished with affection / attention without needing to be held/co sleep. I got a decent night's rest and had plenty of patience. I could sit them on the floor to play while I did something else or a playpen when I had household chores that made it difficult to keep them out of trouble. in my opinion (for what it's worth) there are those parents who are basically just there, you know they have the child, feed it and care for it but do very little nurturing encouraging ect. That is one end of the spectrum. Then you have parents who use the sling and the co-sleep and all that theory......and basically smother the child in their presence/affection/attention. That is the other end of the spectrum. Then you have those that have found a balance where they can continue to have a life along with their parenting and still give their children all the affection/attention/nurturing/ guidance ect without having to be attached to them every second of the day. I was in the middle. (I'm talking "normal" parenting styles, not abusive parents) Mickey's mother works and goes to school. This means Mickey has to be able to adapt to the environment of her caregivers when not with mom. [/QUOTE]
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