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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 490209" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>HI and welcome back stateside. </p><p></p><p>Thank you for your service - you were in my prayers always! You and your little boy. </p><p></p><p>At six? With a history of four years of medical issues? I'm going to take a wild stab that he's seen plenty of doctors. WHY oh WHY then hasn't any of the doctors he's been seeing referred him over for further testing to find out if his behaviors are being caused by something organic or inorganic? Say for instance - metabolic, a diet change, an allergy to - OH wheat, sugar, a chemical imbalance that could possibly show up on an MRI PET scan or in blood work, or any referral to a psychiatrist for some type of medication to help him with his (what I would say) is OBVIOUS depression? </p><p></p><p>He's six and he wants to kill himself and end his life by stabbing himself in the heart. I belive if I were you? And at one time I was - with nearly the same situation - I would have scooped him up, and RUSHED him to the closest ER and had him observed - and admitted as a "DANGER TO SELF and OTHERS." (this is the criteria for admittance to the psychiatriac hospital) and at least someone there would have gotten a good look at him and began some kinds of tests or at the very very least and observation or conversation with him, and you for recommended therapy and where to go, who to talk to - and what you need. </p><p></p><p>I don't know your son, I don't know his history medically - so maybe it's something that makes him feel so awful he DOES feel like dying. If that's the case then medically he needs some things addressed and mentally he needs some counseling and probably observation beyond what you can do. </p><p></p><p>In any event? You BOTH are going to need therapy. He's going to need it to learn how to cope with his feelings - all of them - mostly the angry, sad, rage - probably missin you a lot, lonely - ones......and you for having NOT had to deal with him and his issues for two years and now coming home, not having had any time to decompress from the fatigue of war and being handed a child that is absolutely POSITIVELY going to fatigue you worse than any war. It's unfortunate, and I'm sad to tell you but this is a life-long battle. There is no pill, no ONE person, no one doctor that can fix him - most what you can hope for is between all of the help - your son will find his way - and YOU will find a way with support to cope. It's a long, road - but you have a lot of support here. </p><p></p><p>Glad you're here. Seriously - consider should he threaten suicide again - taking him directly to the ER - this is not a habit you want him to get into because eventually they use it for manipulation and if you stop it now you will be a LOT better off. You are sending a message that say - if you say this? THIS will occur. AND whose to say that it is NOT how he feels. Again - I don't think threats should be taken lightly no matter what the age. </p><p></p><p>Hugs - </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 490209, member: 4964"] HI and welcome back stateside. Thank you for your service - you were in my prayers always! You and your little boy. At six? With a history of four years of medical issues? I'm going to take a wild stab that he's seen plenty of doctors. WHY oh WHY then hasn't any of the doctors he's been seeing referred him over for further testing to find out if his behaviors are being caused by something organic or inorganic? Say for instance - metabolic, a diet change, an allergy to - OH wheat, sugar, a chemical imbalance that could possibly show up on an MRI PET scan or in blood work, or any referral to a psychiatrist for some type of medication to help him with his (what I would say) is OBVIOUS depression? He's six and he wants to kill himself and end his life by stabbing himself in the heart. I belive if I were you? And at one time I was - with nearly the same situation - I would have scooped him up, and RUSHED him to the closest ER and had him observed - and admitted as a "DANGER TO SELF and OTHERS." (this is the criteria for admittance to the psychiatriac hospital) and at least someone there would have gotten a good look at him and began some kinds of tests or at the very very least and observation or conversation with him, and you for recommended therapy and where to go, who to talk to - and what you need. I don't know your son, I don't know his history medically - so maybe it's something that makes him feel so awful he DOES feel like dying. If that's the case then medically he needs some things addressed and mentally he needs some counseling and probably observation beyond what you can do. In any event? You BOTH are going to need therapy. He's going to need it to learn how to cope with his feelings - all of them - mostly the angry, sad, rage - probably missin you a lot, lonely - ones......and you for having NOT had to deal with him and his issues for two years and now coming home, not having had any time to decompress from the fatigue of war and being handed a child that is absolutely POSITIVELY going to fatigue you worse than any war. It's unfortunate, and I'm sad to tell you but this is a life-long battle. There is no pill, no ONE person, no one doctor that can fix him - most what you can hope for is between all of the help - your son will find his way - and YOU will find a way with support to cope. It's a long, road - but you have a lot of support here. Glad you're here. Seriously - consider should he threaten suicide again - taking him directly to the ER - this is not a habit you want him to get into because eventually they use it for manipulation and if you stop it now you will be a LOT better off. You are sending a message that say - if you say this? THIS will occur. AND whose to say that it is NOT how he feels. Again - I don't think threats should be taken lightly no matter what the age. Hugs - Star [/QUOTE]
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