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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 490276" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well then he has a few issues. Divorce...which even at a young age he hasn't recovered from and you have to realize that his Dad - IS his Dad and he's going to love him whether you do or not. (ugh I know this one so well, and I was married to Satan and it took my son until he was 21 to 'get it') still not sure he gets it. BUT he has divorce, and abandonment - You going off to Afghani - is in a childs mind - no greater than - so....and genetically? There is a component there. What it is - hard to tell. Time will tell. He sounds a LOT like my son at that age. My son took a scythe after the neighbor kid at 5, and a ball bat after one of our workers at age 4, and the list of black listed day cares is as long as my arm. - Im still ducked in the grocery store and it's like 18 years later - by day care workers. lol - Oh well -</p><p></p><p>I think then - since you have medications in line - and a neuropsyche....I'd get in contact with the best danged therapist I could. I'd specifically look up one that deals with CHILDREN...and issues about Conduct disorder and really GETS these types of kids, divorce, and possibly someone that does EMDR therapy. (look it up - its not hooey - it's awesome) Maybe someone that does play therapy too and go to both. </p><p></p><p>I'll write more when I get time - gotta go to work. I'd mostly say your son is just ANGRY as hades right now. He needs to understand his anger, know what to do with it when the rage happens, and learn to better control it - and you need to learn how to talk to him and what to say to him. Effective communication. And no - not ship him back to daddy drinko. Good job for the time you were gone or whatever - but enough yo yoing is enough. THe kid has been through enough and needs stability and roots and consistancy if he's going to begin to heal at all. That's the first step. </p><p></p><p>Social workers too? (insert words I can not repeat) </p><p></p><p>Hugs for your day and his ---big hugs for him. </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 490276, member: 4964"] Well then he has a few issues. Divorce...which even at a young age he hasn't recovered from and you have to realize that his Dad - IS his Dad and he's going to love him whether you do or not. (ugh I know this one so well, and I was married to Satan and it took my son until he was 21 to 'get it') still not sure he gets it. BUT he has divorce, and abandonment - You going off to Afghani - is in a childs mind - no greater than - so....and genetically? There is a component there. What it is - hard to tell. Time will tell. He sounds a LOT like my son at that age. My son took a scythe after the neighbor kid at 5, and a ball bat after one of our workers at age 4, and the list of black listed day cares is as long as my arm. - Im still ducked in the grocery store and it's like 18 years later - by day care workers. lol - Oh well - I think then - since you have medications in line - and a neuropsyche....I'd get in contact with the best danged therapist I could. I'd specifically look up one that deals with CHILDREN...and issues about Conduct disorder and really GETS these types of kids, divorce, and possibly someone that does EMDR therapy. (look it up - its not hooey - it's awesome) Maybe someone that does play therapy too and go to both. I'll write more when I get time - gotta go to work. I'd mostly say your son is just ANGRY as hades right now. He needs to understand his anger, know what to do with it when the rage happens, and learn to better control it - and you need to learn how to talk to him and what to say to him. Effective communication. And no - not ship him back to daddy drinko. Good job for the time you were gone or whatever - but enough yo yoing is enough. THe kid has been through enough and needs stability and roots and consistancy if he's going to begin to heal at all. That's the first step. Social workers too? (insert words I can not repeat) Hugs for your day and his ---big hugs for him. Star [/QUOTE]
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