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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 554405" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I'm sorry you find yourself in this difficult place. I understand about your granddaughter who is an innocent child in the middle of it all. Is it possible for you to go to court and get permanent guardianship of your granddaughter? I had to do that when my granddaughter was 11. My difficult child is older then yours but they sound similar in many ways. I went to court and filed for temporary guardianship which can be difficult because you have to prove the child is in immediate danger. I did the entire process on my own without an attorney. I went online and researched it all, got all the papers, submitted them myself and I was awarded temporary and then permanent guardianship. You don't have to wait until CPS does anything, although I contacted them and made a connection with one of the Social Workers who ended up assisting me and going to court with me the first time. Your daughter has a case with CPS already because of all of your calls. All of that will be considered during the guardianship process. You can also, of course, get an attorney to do all the legwork for you. I found a great organization called Grandparents parenting again which helped me wade through all the paperwork. It was a lot of work and a lot of paperwork, court appearances and stress, but in the end, my granddaughter is safe and doing very well and that was always the goal.</p><p></p><p>Also, in some states a formal eviction process is required to evict even your own kids. You might want to investigate that in case your daughter is aware of that.</p><p></p><p>You have options where your granddaughter is concerned, you just need to get some legal advice or research it yourself and find out what you can do. Find out about the legal eviction issues. Once your ducks are in order and you know what you can and cannot do, you will feel better because you will have regained your own power back. Your daughter is presently holding you hostage with her issues, which feels powerless. Get the facts, protect your granddaughter, do it step by step. While she is still with you, decide what it is you want and set very strong boundaries. If you have trouble with that, seek help, a therapist, a group, NAMI, National Alliance on Mental Illness has chapters everywhere and they have parent groups and help for YOU. You can go online and find the nearest chapter and contact them for support. It is extremely difficult to deal with an adult who has a mental illness they will not seek help or medication for. It is made more disastrous when there are children involved.</p><p></p><p><u><em>Get as much support as you can through this for as long as it takes.</em></u> I send you warm wishes for a successful outcome for you and your granddaughter especially, but also for your difficult child to wake up and find help. (((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 554405, member: 13542"] I'm sorry you find yourself in this difficult place. I understand about your granddaughter who is an innocent child in the middle of it all. Is it possible for you to go to court and get permanent guardianship of your granddaughter? I had to do that when my granddaughter was 11. My difficult child is older then yours but they sound similar in many ways. I went to court and filed for temporary guardianship which can be difficult because you have to prove the child is in immediate danger. I did the entire process on my own without an attorney. I went online and researched it all, got all the papers, submitted them myself and I was awarded temporary and then permanent guardianship. You don't have to wait until CPS does anything, although I contacted them and made a connection with one of the Social Workers who ended up assisting me and going to court with me the first time. Your daughter has a case with CPS already because of all of your calls. All of that will be considered during the guardianship process. You can also, of course, get an attorney to do all the legwork for you. I found a great organization called Grandparents parenting again which helped me wade through all the paperwork. It was a lot of work and a lot of paperwork, court appearances and stress, but in the end, my granddaughter is safe and doing very well and that was always the goal. Also, in some states a formal eviction process is required to evict even your own kids. You might want to investigate that in case your daughter is aware of that. You have options where your granddaughter is concerned, you just need to get some legal advice or research it yourself and find out what you can do. Find out about the legal eviction issues. Once your ducks are in order and you know what you can and cannot do, you will feel better because you will have regained your own power back. Your daughter is presently holding you hostage with her issues, which feels powerless. Get the facts, protect your granddaughter, do it step by step. While she is still with you, decide what it is you want and set very strong boundaries. If you have trouble with that, seek help, a therapist, a group, NAMI, National Alliance on Mental Illness has chapters everywhere and they have parent groups and help for YOU. You can go online and find the nearest chapter and contact them for support. It is extremely difficult to deal with an adult who has a mental illness they will not seek help or medication for. It is made more disastrous when there are children involved. [U][I]Get as much support as you can through this for as long as it takes.[/I][/U] I send you warm wishes for a successful outcome for you and your granddaughter especially, but also for your difficult child to wake up and find help. (((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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