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<blockquote data-quote="doula4u" data-source="post: 437023" data-attributes="member: 12177"><p>first i guess, is that she was diagnosed by the school psychologist 2 years ago. at that time i had to demand it becasue she was 2 years behind in curiculum. since then she is being held to pretty much the same standard of the rest of her class. shes about 50- 70 % average in her grades now... big improvment! We are currently working with a program called COMPASS by the YWCA. there have been no medications as i am still on a waiting list for a pediatrician(since october). </p><p></p><p>there are no options for therapuetic foster care, but someone before just told me to give her to the system... i dont believe this would help only make her worse. I am a family preservation advocate so child services is the last place i would go for help. she is not at risk of hurting herself or anyone else... she has gotten into a few fights at school but shes not a violent person by nature. i guess i am frustrated because i hear so many positive things from the teachers about her improvements but at home shes worse than ever so im a bit confused. she has spent so much of her childhood grounded and it doesnt seem to work at all so does one just stop giving punishments for poor behaviour? ( pick your battles i have been told) </p><p></p><p>My hubby has completely given up and im the only one left to find her help. My daughter seems to blame him for not giving her enough.... her room isnt big enough, she doesnt have enough clothes/ toys ect. meanwhile she has more now then ever before and really it is an excess of stuff. her sence of entiitlement is rediculous, she feels like we should just give her whatever she wants and not ask questions. then when i ask her to put her laundry away its like i just asked her to cut off her arm! I know this is mostly due to the fact that my mother has always undermined me in my attempts to parent, by this I mean while i was getting an education, my mother was careing for my daughter ( we all lived together) and we did not agree on how things should be done. i say go brush your teeth she says dont be so hard on her! shes still doing this even though we havent lived together for 3 years. it always a battle inthis house. there is rearely a day that passes that my girl just does the things she is supposed to without starting a fight, nor does she ever actually complete a task. She only has 3 basic duties, homework, clean room once a week and clean her bathroom once a week. apearently that is too much to expect. yet i get concerned about her inthe respect of hoarding, becasue she keeps such silly things, and i dont want o just go into her room and clean it for her as that may intensify that problem. so i try to get her to go through it and be reasonable about weather it is important and needs to be kept. but her room is always a disaster. i guess im just ranting now but these things are all part of her core persoality and i fear cannot be changed. i really really want her to be successful in life and it kills me to think that she might not even be able to hold a job when shes older let alone go to college and get a job she likes. teen years are hitting and i think we might be introuble if something is not done soon.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="doula4u, post: 437023, member: 12177"] first i guess, is that she was diagnosed by the school psychologist 2 years ago. at that time i had to demand it becasue she was 2 years behind in curiculum. since then she is being held to pretty much the same standard of the rest of her class. shes about 50- 70 % average in her grades now... big improvment! We are currently working with a program called COMPASS by the YWCA. there have been no medications as i am still on a waiting list for a pediatrician(since october). there are no options for therapuetic foster care, but someone before just told me to give her to the system... i dont believe this would help only make her worse. I am a family preservation advocate so child services is the last place i would go for help. she is not at risk of hurting herself or anyone else... she has gotten into a few fights at school but shes not a violent person by nature. i guess i am frustrated because i hear so many positive things from the teachers about her improvements but at home shes worse than ever so im a bit confused. she has spent so much of her childhood grounded and it doesnt seem to work at all so does one just stop giving punishments for poor behaviour? ( pick your battles i have been told) My hubby has completely given up and im the only one left to find her help. My daughter seems to blame him for not giving her enough.... her room isnt big enough, she doesnt have enough clothes/ toys ect. meanwhile she has more now then ever before and really it is an excess of stuff. her sence of entiitlement is rediculous, she feels like we should just give her whatever she wants and not ask questions. then when i ask her to put her laundry away its like i just asked her to cut off her arm! I know this is mostly due to the fact that my mother has always undermined me in my attempts to parent, by this I mean while i was getting an education, my mother was careing for my daughter ( we all lived together) and we did not agree on how things should be done. i say go brush your teeth she says dont be so hard on her! shes still doing this even though we havent lived together for 3 years. it always a battle inthis house. there is rearely a day that passes that my girl just does the things she is supposed to without starting a fight, nor does she ever actually complete a task. She only has 3 basic duties, homework, clean room once a week and clean her bathroom once a week. apearently that is too much to expect. yet i get concerned about her inthe respect of hoarding, becasue she keeps such silly things, and i dont want o just go into her room and clean it for her as that may intensify that problem. so i try to get her to go through it and be reasonable about weather it is important and needs to be kept. but her room is always a disaster. i guess im just ranting now but these things are all part of her core persoality and i fear cannot be changed. i really really want her to be successful in life and it kills me to think that she might not even be able to hold a job when shes older let alone go to college and get a job she likes. teen years are hitting and i think we might be introuble if something is not done soon. [/QUOTE]
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