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<blockquote data-quote="HereWeGoAgain" data-source="post: 170540" data-attributes="member: 3485"><p>Hi Bertie,</p><p> </p><p>I know in my case it did not work out for me to try to "manage" difficult child through access to her money. </p><p> </p><p>She got a sizable EIC payment. I did her taxes for her and had it deposited into an account in her name at my bank. I made it one condition of living with us that she agree that I would dole it out "as needed" until she could get into a sober house arrangement, when she'd have the balance for security deposit, first month's rent, household supplies and moving expenses.</p><p> </p><p>Well, as long as she was on the "as needed" dole, there did not seem to her to be any compelling reason to look for work or a place at a sober house. She got no experience in managing money, and I nearly blew a gasket at the constant requests for dollars which promptly went for cigarettes and Starbuck's.</p><p> </p><p>Finally, I had to just detach and turn over the reins, even in the full knowledge that she would blow the money. And she did. She went through it at something like $50 per day until it was all gone. At that point necessity became the mother of motivation, and she got a job.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HereWeGoAgain, post: 170540, member: 3485"] Hi Bertie, I know in my case it did not work out for me to try to "manage" difficult child through access to her money. She got a sizable EIC payment. I did her taxes for her and had it deposited into an account in her name at my bank. I made it one condition of living with us that she agree that I would dole it out "as needed" until she could get into a sober house arrangement, when she'd have the balance for security deposit, first month's rent, household supplies and moving expenses. Well, as long as she was on the "as needed" dole, there did not seem to her to be any compelling reason to look for work or a place at a sober house. She got no experience in managing money, and I nearly blew a gasket at the constant requests for dollars which promptly went for cigarettes and Starbuck's. Finally, I had to just detach and turn over the reins, even in the full knowledge that she would blow the money. And she did. She went through it at something like $50 per day until it was all gone. At that point necessity became the mother of motivation, and she got a job. [/QUOTE]
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