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<blockquote data-quote="shutterbunny" data-source="post: 31136" data-attributes="member: 3568"><p>I don't know about the insurance question so I'll pass on that one! </p><p></p><p>That's ok, I am sure it is a weird kind of question</p><p></p><p>I know you are probably looking for a better answer than this but the best advice I can give you is to take one day at a time. Heck, I've been at points where an hour without disruption seemed like the best gift ever!</p><p></p><p>Yep, I hear you. I remember we used to get 15 minutes of no screaming when he was a baby and we'd just get to the point of relaxing a bit and then WAIL, it would start all over. We've been like that with the rage/outbursts ever since. </p><p></p><p>How is he doing socially now?</p><p></p><p>That's a tough one to answer...when he's having a "good" day, he's a very funny, very sweet, very kind child. He's very much the ham/class clown when he's "on." Though, he's always very intense, happy is intense, angry is intense, sad is intense...he's intense. As for how other children perceive him, I'm not really sure. I'm not sure what "typical" peer relations look like for a 4 year old. I do see that other children seem to have banded together and he's not necessarily included. I tend to think it is because he has some pretty major outbursts and I'm sure that the children are both afraid to be in the path of one of his rages and naturally warey of someone that can be very different from them. I also know that he tends to attach himself to one little friend at a time and he can overwhelm that person by being so possessive of them. On the other hand, his teachers love him, they admit he has 'his moments' but they think he is just the greatest little kid when he's 'on.' They seem to feel that he isn't completely left out, but they do see some issues of him being possessive and/or bullying *by manipulating kids for attention* and they think that he could have better peer relations than he does if these things would come under control. He has some major issues with transitioning and we see him as having some anxiety about transitioning *from the bus to the school, or from activity to activity* as well as we see him struggling so hard to keep it together and I think he lives in some fear of "losing it" around his friends. I'm not sure that answers your question, but that's my take on it. in the past couple of weeks, he seems to have been able to sit and play with some kids with-o getting angry and stomping off to be by himself. He used to do this quite often. He'd stand in the middle of a room and scream that everyone was to stop looking at him and stop talking to him and he'd demand to be left alone to play in a corner by himself. We have not seen that in the last week or so. So, we're either making progress with the medications, or he's just in the "up part" of his cycle and we'll have to see how low the rollercoaster might take him.</p><p></p><p>Thanks very much for your remarks, I truly appreciate the help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="shutterbunny, post: 31136, member: 3568"] I don't know about the insurance question so I'll pass on that one! That's ok, I am sure it is a weird kind of question I know you are probably looking for a better answer than this but the best advice I can give you is to take one day at a time. Heck, I've been at points where an hour without disruption seemed like the best gift ever! Yep, I hear you. I remember we used to get 15 minutes of no screaming when he was a baby and we'd just get to the point of relaxing a bit and then WAIL, it would start all over. We've been like that with the rage/outbursts ever since. How is he doing socially now? That's a tough one to answer...when he's having a "good" day, he's a very funny, very sweet, very kind child. He's very much the ham/class clown when he's "on." Though, he's always very intense, happy is intense, angry is intense, sad is intense...he's intense. As for how other children perceive him, I'm not really sure. I'm not sure what "typical" peer relations look like for a 4 year old. I do see that other children seem to have banded together and he's not necessarily included. I tend to think it is because he has some pretty major outbursts and I'm sure that the children are both afraid to be in the path of one of his rages and naturally warey of someone that can be very different from them. I also know that he tends to attach himself to one little friend at a time and he can overwhelm that person by being so possessive of them. On the other hand, his teachers love him, they admit he has 'his moments' but they think he is just the greatest little kid when he's 'on.' They seem to feel that he isn't completely left out, but they do see some issues of him being possessive and/or bullying *by manipulating kids for attention* and they think that he could have better peer relations than he does if these things would come under control. He has some major issues with transitioning and we see him as having some anxiety about transitioning *from the bus to the school, or from activity to activity* as well as we see him struggling so hard to keep it together and I think he lives in some fear of "losing it" around his friends. I'm not sure that answers your question, but that's my take on it. in the past couple of weeks, he seems to have been able to sit and play with some kids with-o getting angry and stomping off to be by himself. He used to do this quite often. He'd stand in the middle of a room and scream that everyone was to stop looking at him and stop talking to him and he'd demand to be left alone to play in a corner by himself. We have not seen that in the last week or so. So, we're either making progress with the medications, or he's just in the "up part" of his cycle and we'll have to see how low the rollercoaster might take him. Thanks very much for your remarks, I truly appreciate the help. [/QUOTE]
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