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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 561626" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>I have gone through the stages and I bounce back and forward trying to reach acceptance. I love my son unconditionally and I can completely accept the fact that it is his life and him alone can change it. I am thankful for all I have in my life - but it is still painful to have my son spew nasty comments blaming me for his life style. I have finally reached a point where I will not give money to him under any circumstances - that includes birthday and Christmas - if he spends them alone that is his choice. </p><p></p><p>I thought the same about respect when he last attacked me by e-mail - I am your mother and I not only want respect, I demand it - if you can not show me that respect do not contact me. I would not allow any one else to say and treat me the way he does. It may be a long time before I hear from my selfish, hateful brat - and I know it is the drugs and alcohol - but I refuse to be treated as he has treated me.</p><p></p><p>This is another good poem in my opinion:</p><p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">The </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Journey </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">One day you finally knew</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">what you had to do, and </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">began,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">though the voices around you</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">kept shouting</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">their bad advice </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">--</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">though the whole house</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">began to tremble</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">and you felt the old </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">tug</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">at your ankles.</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">"Mend my life!"</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">each voice cried.</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">But you didn't </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">stop.</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">You knew what you had to do,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">though the wind pried</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">with its stiff </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">fingers</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">at the very foundations,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">though their melancholy</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">was </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">terrible.</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">It was already late</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">enough, and a wild night,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">and the road </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">full of fallen</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">branches and stones.</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">But little by little,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">as you left </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">their voices behind,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">the stars began to burn</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">through the sheets of </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">clouds,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">and there was a new voice</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">which you slowly</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">recognized as your </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">own,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">that kept you company</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">as you strode deeper and deeper</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">into the </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">world,</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">determined to do</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">the only thing you could do --</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">determined to </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">save</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">the only life you could save. </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><span style="font-size: 10px">~ Mary Oliver ~</span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"></p> <p style="text-align: center"></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 561626, member: 13558"] I have gone through the stages and I bounce back and forward trying to reach acceptance. I love my son unconditionally and I can completely accept the fact that it is his life and him alone can change it. I am thankful for all I have in my life - but it is still painful to have my son spew nasty comments blaming me for his life style. I have finally reached a point where I will not give money to him under any circumstances - that includes birthday and Christmas - if he spends them alone that is his choice. I thought the same about respect when he last attacked me by e-mail - I am your mother and I not only want respect, I demand it - if you can not show me that respect do not contact me. I would not allow any one else to say and treat me the way he does. It may be a long time before I hear from my selfish, hateful brat - and I know it is the drugs and alcohol - but I refuse to be treated as he has treated me. This is another good poem in my opinion: [CENTER][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=2][FONT=Comic Sans MS]The Journey One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice -- though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. "Mend my life!" each voice cried. But you didn't stop. You knew what you had to do, though the wind pried with its stiff fingers at the very foundations, though their melancholy was terrible. It was already late enough, and a wild night, and the road full of fallen branches and stones. But little by little, as you left their voices behind, the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds, and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own, that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world, determined to do the only thing you could do -- determined to save the only life you could save. [/FONT][/SIZE][/FONT][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=2]~ Mary Oliver ~[/SIZE][/FONT] [/CENTER] [/QUOTE]
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