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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 186842" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>I agree with Wynter.</p><p>***</p><p>My brother is significantly older than I am, and has 3 very successful daughters. Drinking was something he allowed his girls to do - in the home, supervised, not taboo, etc. As they got older, he even let the girls bring friends into it (WITH PARENTAL PERMISSION). Also keep in mind they lived in a VERY rural area.</p><p>***</p><p>By the time the girls were on their own, the "appeal" and rebelion factor of alcohol was gone. They experienced their first "too much" in the safety of their home. They learned their limits in the safety of their home. And I, personally, think that's an invaluable lesson. They both drink occassionally, they both call for rides when they need to, etc. They just learned to handle alcohol, just like they learned to handle everything else - with mom and dad's guidance.</p><p>***</p><p>I modeled a lot of my parenting after my brother, including this (except the friends part). difficult child 1 was caught drinking long before I allowed him to at home. easy child 1 is just like the girls - responsible. difficult child 1, I beleive, is an alcoholic. He drank different from the beginning when I allowed him to - his drinking is not social, he drinks to be drunk. He is Native American, both bio parents are addicts and/or alcoholics. I did not introduce him to drinking, but I beleive having seen him drink may put me in a better position to help him when/if he ever addresses his problem. The one mature conversation we had while he was home on leave was about his drinking - he is starting to realize he's got a problem. Had I been a parent that hadn't allowed alcohol til 21, that's a conversation we wouldn't have had. So I think even tho the goal was not reached with difficult child 1, it was also not all lost on him, either...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 186842, member: 1848"] I agree with Wynter. *** My brother is significantly older than I am, and has 3 very successful daughters. Drinking was something he allowed his girls to do - in the home, supervised, not taboo, etc. As they got older, he even let the girls bring friends into it (WITH PARENTAL PERMISSION). Also keep in mind they lived in a VERY rural area. *** By the time the girls were on their own, the "appeal" and rebelion factor of alcohol was gone. They experienced their first "too much" in the safety of their home. They learned their limits in the safety of their home. And I, personally, think that's an invaluable lesson. They both drink occassionally, they both call for rides when they need to, etc. They just learned to handle alcohol, just like they learned to handle everything else - with mom and dad's guidance. *** I modeled a lot of my parenting after my brother, including this (except the friends part). difficult child 1 was caught drinking long before I allowed him to at home. easy child 1 is just like the girls - responsible. difficult child 1, I beleive, is an alcoholic. He drank different from the beginning when I allowed him to - his drinking is not social, he drinks to be drunk. He is Native American, both bio parents are addicts and/or alcoholics. I did not introduce him to drinking, but I beleive having seen him drink may put me in a better position to help him when/if he ever addresses his problem. The one mature conversation we had while he was home on leave was about his drinking - he is starting to realize he's got a problem. Had I been a parent that hadn't allowed alcohol til 21, that's a conversation we wouldn't have had. So I think even tho the goal was not reached with difficult child 1, it was also not all lost on him, either... [/QUOTE]
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