sooootired, you are doing great at sticking to your boundaries. The reason they keep on asking and asking is because WE TAUGHT THEM that if they just kept on, we would cave in. We taught them that over and over and over again.
Like my husband says: It took a long, long time to walk into the forest. It's going to take the same long, long time to walk out of it.
Keep that metaphor in mind.
We have to continue being consistent in order for them to understand that things have changed. We will no longer cave in when they keep on.
Usually, maintaining some good distance, meaning---let days go by when you don't see or talk to any of them. Let days and weeks and even months if necessary go by when you don't take or respond to their calls, texts, fb messages, anything.
You just go on and live your life and let them live theirs. I know you love your grandson and want to see him frequently but maybe, if you can detach like this for a while, they will have to step up their lives and become more responsible.
We so understand. Hang in there!
