We have also found that there is really NO way to stop it. Most of the disorders our children have that affect them GIVE them this POWER of manipulation, and it really IS hardwired in their DNA. As for them getting it from their DADS....well, I'm not so sure about that, but I guess since mostly women frequent this board, we get to blame them cause they aren't here in great numbers to stick up for themselves!!!!
Although this isn't really able to be "stopped", there are some good things that will help head it off early. A HUGE part of this is COMMUNICATION. Everyone must be talking openly about things that are going on and this makes a big difference. Between open communication and MAKING your difficult child accountable for their behaviors and accusations, it will help them think twice before they try to pull something over on you. difficult child's really are a catch 22, because they will COMPLETELY exhaust you, but you HAVE to stay 100% alert and on your toes to handle them and keep yourself one step ahead....which just will EXHAUST you more, and it is like this totally endless cycle that never stops!!!
