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Marijuana, the New Beer?
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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 612825" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Is he planning on living in a dorm at college? If he gets caught with pot, or buying it, smoking it in his room, etc., he will be severely sanctioned. </p><p> </p><p>There are mixed messages about pot now, with so many states decriminalizing/legalizing it, that it's confusing. I think most young people who have a predilection for pot do see it as harmless - just like a beer now and again. Look at Miley Cyrus...she lit up a joint on stage at an awards show, and the crowd went wild. It's almost impossible to fight the tide of public opinion now, but believe me, colleges will not be lenient - he may be expelled and he may turn up back at your house in exactly the same predicament.</p><p> </p><p>You have younger kids at home whom you do not wish to be negatively influenced. You're in a tough predicament because if you overly exercise the "my house, my rules" philosophy, you will paint yourself into a corner and your son knows you will not throw him out, so he's clever enough to exploit this opportunity. Being frank with him and following through on your expectations is key. Carefully decide what you will and will not accept, tell your son what you have decided, the consequences, etc., and be prepared to stick to it. You don't want to be a hard a**, but you also don't have to financially support him at this point if he is defiant. Don't fall for the hype...you don't want to "control" everything he does, but you also don't have to turn a blind eye and tacitly support it either...you have younger kids at home. Parenting is not for sissies, that's for sure!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 612825, member: 13882"] Is he planning on living in a dorm at college? If he gets caught with pot, or buying it, smoking it in his room, etc., he will be severely sanctioned. There are mixed messages about pot now, with so many states decriminalizing/legalizing it, that it's confusing. I think most young people who have a predilection for pot do see it as harmless - just like a beer now and again. Look at Miley Cyrus...she lit up a joint on stage at an awards show, and the crowd went wild. It's almost impossible to fight the tide of public opinion now, but believe me, colleges will not be lenient - he may be expelled and he may turn up back at your house in exactly the same predicament. You have younger kids at home whom you do not wish to be negatively influenced. You're in a tough predicament because if you overly exercise the "my house, my rules" philosophy, you will paint yourself into a corner and your son knows you will not throw him out, so he's clever enough to exploit this opportunity. Being frank with him and following through on your expectations is key. Carefully decide what you will and will not accept, tell your son what you have decided, the consequences, etc., and be prepared to stick to it. You don't want to be a hard a**, but you also don't have to financially support him at this point if he is defiant. Don't fall for the hype...you don't want to "control" everything he does, but you also don't have to turn a blind eye and tacitly support it either...you have younger kids at home. Parenting is not for sissies, that's for sure! [/QUOTE]
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