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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 265271" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>The comments on the different you tube especially by David Walsh</p><p>that ' delaying gratification ' is a predictor of success is not what I hold. He tells parents about the importance of saying NO , so thereby training kids to handle frustration. When it comes to easily frustrated and inflexible kids , it is bad policy to make the world an even more frustrating place . Avoid saying NO - ' answer - I am not saying No , but this requires some discussion - I hear ya etc - plan B . Here in my humble opinion it is the ability to delay response and think of a strategy to solve a problem which is more important than merely having self discipline.</p><p></p><p>Alfie Kohn talks about the marshmellow experiment at the end of his article - Why is self discipline so overrated</p><p><a href="http://www.alfiekohn.org/article/self-discipline-overrated/" target="_blank">http://www.alfiekohn.org/article/self-discipline-overrated/</a></p><p></p><p>' Second, what mostly interested Mischel wasnt whether children could wait for a bigger treat which, by the way, most of them could[39] and whether waiters fared better in life than non-waiters, but how children go about trying to wait and which strategies help. It turned out that kids waited longer when they were distracted by a toy. What worked best wasnt self-denial and grim determination but doing something enjoyable while waiting so that self-control wasnt needed at all![40]'</p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 265271, member: 10"] Hi, The comments on the different you tube especially by David Walsh that ' delaying gratification ' is a predictor of success is not what I hold. He tells parents about the importance of saying NO , so thereby training kids to handle frustration. When it comes to easily frustrated and inflexible kids , it is bad policy to make the world an even more frustrating place . Avoid saying NO - ' answer - I am not saying No , but this requires some discussion - I hear ya etc - plan B . Here in my humble opinion it is the ability to delay response and think of a strategy to solve a problem which is more important than merely having self discipline. Alfie Kohn talks about the marshmellow experiment at the end of his article - Why is self discipline so overrated [URL]http://www.alfiekohn.org/article/self-discipline-overrated/[/URL] ' Second, what mostly interested Mischel wasnt whether children could wait for a bigger treat which, by the way, most of them could[39] and whether waiters fared better in life than non-waiters, but how children go about trying to wait and which strategies help. It turned out that kids waited longer when they were distracted by a toy. What worked best wasnt self-denial and grim determination but doing something enjoyable while waiting so that self-control wasnt needed at all![40]' Allan [/QUOTE]
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