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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 311268"><p>Side note/re-read 100x:</p><p></p><p>I do think it is a difficult road to travel and also strongly suspect there is meaning behind it all.</p><p></p><p>I'm learning 'things' all the time...for example, how to 'balance' my own needs, speak up for myself, make sure I am on my list of "favorite people" as well as my loved ones, and I am able to help difficult child when it is appropriate and necessary, without taking away lessons that she needs to learn. I am learning balance and wisdom.</p><p></p><p>I read recently that our (us parents) reaction to the stressors of having a child with special needs and/or mental illness plays a big role in their recuperation or at least their ability to manage their symptoms. It all has to do with coping. How do we cope with stress? How are we modeling coping? Interesting, it is just one more burden to place on mom and dad. It is what it is, but this is one more big and important reason to get therapy as soon as possible. The stresses involved are real and big and few are naturally equipped to cope with it, esp. all the time and esp. when they are really blooming. </p><p></p><p>So, my advice would be to push for therapy for yourself and to do your best to control your emotions, with the understanding, that it isn't going to be easy. In the end, you will be a better person for having worked on yourself and you will help your son. You will be a role model for how to cope with very very difficult and trying things.</p><p></p><p>I also agree about the Xanax. It is extremely addicting and from what I understand, should only be used rarely.</p><p></p><p>Sending you good thoughts and hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 311268"] Side note/re-read 100x: I do think it is a difficult road to travel and also strongly suspect there is meaning behind it all. I'm learning 'things' all the time...for example, how to 'balance' my own needs, speak up for myself, make sure I am on my list of "favorite people" as well as my loved ones, and I am able to help difficult child when it is appropriate and necessary, without taking away lessons that she needs to learn. I am learning balance and wisdom. I read recently that our (us parents) reaction to the stressors of having a child with special needs and/or mental illness plays a big role in their recuperation or at least their ability to manage their symptoms. It all has to do with coping. How do we cope with stress? How are we modeling coping? Interesting, it is just one more burden to place on mom and dad. It is what it is, but this is one more big and important reason to get therapy as soon as possible. The stresses involved are real and big and few are naturally equipped to cope with it, esp. all the time and esp. when they are really blooming. So, my advice would be to push for therapy for yourself and to do your best to control your emotions, with the understanding, that it isn't going to be easy. In the end, you will be a better person for having worked on yourself and you will help your son. You will be a role model for how to cope with very very difficult and trying things. I also agree about the Xanax. It is extremely addicting and from what I understand, should only be used rarely. Sending you good thoughts and hugs [/QUOTE]
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