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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 291142" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Hi all. I actually do believe he is trying to stay sober because he has things figured out. I also know from all I've seen and learned that he is more than capable of still covering his tracks etc. It is crazy how he can be so messed up yet still think plans through, etc.</p><p></p><p>Regarding the registered mail, theres nothing he can do about not having picked it up. It is formality that he must be sent a copy of the orders for no trespassing, but if he doesn't pick them up, it doesn't protect him. They are all registered in police computers and I've asked the police what happens if he breaks the orders and is confronted by police and claims he wasn't aware. They have ensured me it does nothing to help him defend himself, he will be criminally liable. Mind you, these are just pieces of paper, nothing will prevent someone from trying something if they want to disregard law, and this guy gives a rats patootie about law. But at least it ensures immediate police action if its a officer who isn't really clear about whats going on around here. </p><p></p><p>easy child's father phoned on his cell yesterday to tell me they were heading home. Even driving straight through, they wont' arrive until later tonight. I was contemplating filling him in on the goings on and asking for easy child to stay with him. First problem, I miss her so bad it hurts. It's been weeks since I've seen her. Second problem, he put her on the phone and she was babbling happily about her fun holiday one minute, next minute bawling her head off and saying she misses me and difficult child and S/O and wishes she didn't have another day to wait to get home. I can't keep her away the entire time until this upcoming hearing. She will be home sometime late today.</p><p></p><p>What I have decided is to keep easy child home when I can. As it stands, she's home until Thursday when she goes for a 3 day family reunion with her dad. Then she is to be back home for just under 2 weeks until her next camping holiday with her father. I do plan to tell him in vague terms that there is a eviction going on that is making a tenant unhappy and that S/O and I, along with the super and other neighbours, need to go to court on the 30th. I need him to take easy child the night before (the hearing is bright and early but it is a cattle call, everyone shows at 8:30 a.m. and waits there turn. Since we were added last minute, I'm guessing we'll be there all day). So he needs to take her the night before and I am going to tell him I'll call that night with the date the guy will be gone and decide then how to proceed with easy child. She may need to spend extra time with her dad while we wait his official date to leave, come court day hes going to learn what all WE have learned and he will NOT be happy. I'm going to cross fingers and toes that the tribunal decides on a VERY QUICK date for him to be gone. While she's home, we will NOT be playing outside etc. Because of S/O being laid off and not having signed yet with the air force, we have the ability to stick together and not be alone, any of us. </p><p></p><p>Meanwhile, S/O was in touch with the recruiter and we are told we could get a call any day for his formal offer and to sign the papers, but the most it would be was another 4-6 weeks. I tend to think it is going to be sooner, the recruiter thinks so as well. That means we have a small chance to move to the base here before school starts back in, or to another base if we can get transferred to do his training somewhere else. We just have to be patient and wait to see what happens with that part of things.</p><p></p><p>The psycho is drinking again. No clue to what degree except we do know he was buying beer again a few times this week. I didn't figure he could hold out for long. Guess I was right. I have the feeling he'll be trying to moderate the booze to self protect, but that it will get the better of him. It only takes one neighbour to see him stumbling around drunk and he'll be picked up by police. </p><p></p><p>Yesterday he for some reason started to mow my property. As we share a landlord, he would do this before all this happened. Under these circumstances he should NOT be doing so, as it allows him right next to all my windows. I realized it was him, and went to shut my blinds and curtain to my living room. He zoomed quick to the window under the guise of mowing and smashed intentionally into my air conditioner stuck out the window. He didn't make eye contact, pretending he didn't notice S/O and I in the window shutting the blinds etc. Bull crapolla is what we say to that. As for smashing into my air conditioner, it was like a way to flip us the bird without giving us reason to call police. I did let my super know and she emailed to tell him to NOT for any reason mow again and that he will be arrested if ever again spotted near my windows. He has not responded to that email. </p><p></p><p>That's where we are at today. I'm going to make something up to say to easy child about why we aren't enjoying our yard etc, while not letting her feel in danger in her own home. We'll be extra extra careful now that she's home. Yet at the same time, it will be so good to have her home. She's never been away this long before. Even difficult child got up at 8am (instead of the usual dinner time, since its summer and hes a night owl) and started cleaning his room so she could go in there to tell him about her holiday, and then plans to clean HER room for her (he's used it since its larger and he feels safer in that room for some reason). difficult child does NOT clean. He misses his baby sister too. He has said he wants us to drop them off and pick them up at the military base's recreation center every couple of days so he can take her swimming and to play basketball in their gym. He's never offered that before, he doesn't "hang" with his little sister. He's such a sweetie.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 291142, member: 4264"] Hi all. I actually do believe he is trying to stay sober because he has things figured out. I also know from all I've seen and learned that he is more than capable of still covering his tracks etc. It is crazy how he can be so messed up yet still think plans through, etc. Regarding the registered mail, theres nothing he can do about not having picked it up. It is formality that he must be sent a copy of the orders for no trespassing, but if he doesn't pick them up, it doesn't protect him. They are all registered in police computers and I've asked the police what happens if he breaks the orders and is confronted by police and claims he wasn't aware. They have ensured me it does nothing to help him defend himself, he will be criminally liable. Mind you, these are just pieces of paper, nothing will prevent someone from trying something if they want to disregard law, and this guy gives a rats patootie about law. But at least it ensures immediate police action if its a officer who isn't really clear about whats going on around here. easy child's father phoned on his cell yesterday to tell me they were heading home. Even driving straight through, they wont' arrive until later tonight. I was contemplating filling him in on the goings on and asking for easy child to stay with him. First problem, I miss her so bad it hurts. It's been weeks since I've seen her. Second problem, he put her on the phone and she was babbling happily about her fun holiday one minute, next minute bawling her head off and saying she misses me and difficult child and S/O and wishes she didn't have another day to wait to get home. I can't keep her away the entire time until this upcoming hearing. She will be home sometime late today. What I have decided is to keep easy child home when I can. As it stands, she's home until Thursday when she goes for a 3 day family reunion with her dad. Then she is to be back home for just under 2 weeks until her next camping holiday with her father. I do plan to tell him in vague terms that there is a eviction going on that is making a tenant unhappy and that S/O and I, along with the super and other neighbours, need to go to court on the 30th. I need him to take easy child the night before (the hearing is bright and early but it is a cattle call, everyone shows at 8:30 a.m. and waits there turn. Since we were added last minute, I'm guessing we'll be there all day). So he needs to take her the night before and I am going to tell him I'll call that night with the date the guy will be gone and decide then how to proceed with easy child. She may need to spend extra time with her dad while we wait his official date to leave, come court day hes going to learn what all WE have learned and he will NOT be happy. I'm going to cross fingers and toes that the tribunal decides on a VERY QUICK date for him to be gone. While she's home, we will NOT be playing outside etc. Because of S/O being laid off and not having signed yet with the air force, we have the ability to stick together and not be alone, any of us. Meanwhile, S/O was in touch with the recruiter and we are told we could get a call any day for his formal offer and to sign the papers, but the most it would be was another 4-6 weeks. I tend to think it is going to be sooner, the recruiter thinks so as well. That means we have a small chance to move to the base here before school starts back in, or to another base if we can get transferred to do his training somewhere else. We just have to be patient and wait to see what happens with that part of things. The psycho is drinking again. No clue to what degree except we do know he was buying beer again a few times this week. I didn't figure he could hold out for long. Guess I was right. I have the feeling he'll be trying to moderate the booze to self protect, but that it will get the better of him. It only takes one neighbour to see him stumbling around drunk and he'll be picked up by police. Yesterday he for some reason started to mow my property. As we share a landlord, he would do this before all this happened. Under these circumstances he should NOT be doing so, as it allows him right next to all my windows. I realized it was him, and went to shut my blinds and curtain to my living room. He zoomed quick to the window under the guise of mowing and smashed intentionally into my air conditioner stuck out the window. He didn't make eye contact, pretending he didn't notice S/O and I in the window shutting the blinds etc. Bull crapolla is what we say to that. As for smashing into my air conditioner, it was like a way to flip us the bird without giving us reason to call police. I did let my super know and she emailed to tell him to NOT for any reason mow again and that he will be arrested if ever again spotted near my windows. He has not responded to that email. That's where we are at today. I'm going to make something up to say to easy child about why we aren't enjoying our yard etc, while not letting her feel in danger in her own home. We'll be extra extra careful now that she's home. Yet at the same time, it will be so good to have her home. She's never been away this long before. Even difficult child got up at 8am (instead of the usual dinner time, since its summer and hes a night owl) and started cleaning his room so she could go in there to tell him about her holiday, and then plans to clean HER room for her (he's used it since its larger and he feels safer in that room for some reason). difficult child does NOT clean. He misses his baby sister too. He has said he wants us to drop them off and pick them up at the military base's recreation center every couple of days so he can take her swimming and to play basketball in their gym. He's never offered that before, he doesn't "hang" with his little sister. He's such a sweetie. [/QUOTE]
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