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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 491443" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I think he will be ok in all three. Hows that for a cop out? BUT I think a happy mama will make for the happiest kiddo. I am not saying be selfish because choice 2 and 3 both will also benefit him in some ways. BUT, choice 2 will meet your lifestyle expectations so well and he will have the best in terms of matching his learning style once he is settled. I totally get the adjustment part though. But he is very little and of course will say he wants to stay because everything else is different and scary to a child. And since he has transition issues to begin with it will be a hard time. If you decide to do it, If you can get pictures of what will happen and make a life book like you do for adoptions where you can show him what it looks like, parks close by, the school, the happy faces of kids and teachers what the houses and stores look like etc. Explain that ALL of his things come too, even the doggie. He will not lose any of his stuff/clothes/bike/toys/etc. </p><p></p><p>Leave the book around for him to read and think about, even if he says no way the first time. Little by little he can wrap his mind around it . Just one idea that might help a little. </p><p></p><p>If he does have transition issues, it might be easier now to change rather than after many more years of bonding to others and then you figure out that you just can't tolerate it there. </p><p></p><p>Tough decision, and I agree YUCK to the business of moving. On the outside it does look like maybe you should gtho.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 491443, member: 12886"] I think he will be ok in all three. Hows that for a cop out? BUT I think a happy mama will make for the happiest kiddo. I am not saying be selfish because choice 2 and 3 both will also benefit him in some ways. BUT, choice 2 will meet your lifestyle expectations so well and he will have the best in terms of matching his learning style once he is settled. I totally get the adjustment part though. But he is very little and of course will say he wants to stay because everything else is different and scary to a child. And since he has transition issues to begin with it will be a hard time. If you decide to do it, If you can get pictures of what will happen and make a life book like you do for adoptions where you can show him what it looks like, parks close by, the school, the happy faces of kids and teachers what the houses and stores look like etc. Explain that ALL of his things come too, even the doggie. He will not lose any of his stuff/clothes/bike/toys/etc. Leave the book around for him to read and think about, even if he says no way the first time. Little by little he can wrap his mind around it . Just one idea that might help a little. If he does have transition issues, it might be easier now to change rather than after many more years of bonding to others and then you figure out that you just can't tolerate it there. Tough decision, and I agree YUCK to the business of moving. On the outside it does look like maybe you should gtho. [/QUOTE]
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