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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 491552" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well, you have not made the decision easier, lol <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> But, seriously, it is very helpful to have your views and opinions. Not looking for you all to take the decision for me, MWM - in any case, it's impossible! Come what may, the person who takes the decision has to be me. I'm also not doing it to "change" J - that has not been in my thinking at all! It's about being in an environment where there are more things that may suit us better (except friends and contacts initially....)</p><p>But your various responses have, as you say klmno, completely highlighted the dilemma. I fear causing great disruption to J. I fear fixing what isn't really broken. He is kind of accepted as he is in the school, having been there since the age of 3, he has his routine, his friends, his confidence. At the same time, I am sure he would adapt eventually to the new - and I think this school with its gardening, cooking, looking after animals, sport, etc would be a big draw. Obviously the younger he is when we change, the easier it will be in the long term and the quicker he will "forget". </p><p>Basically, I think staying where one is is always easier. I myself am really split - part of me doesn't want to take on all the unknown, all the hassle of a move... Especially when it is towards the unknown! And then, for me, the cultural aspect for J IS important - really feeling connected to and knowing his own culture, speaking its language fluently, seems like a very desirable thing... I don't know what is going on for my ex-husband. He is an extremely contradictory, complex character who is impossible to read. I don't know that it's about not wanting J (though it could be). But there are other friends and family in Morocco to whom J is close.</p><p>So you see... it is really not an easy decision! Most of you seem to think that number 2 is the best option, which is interesting. We will go and visit the area, the school, before any definitive decision is made. But, honestly, I really don't want the upheaval! Yet sometimes, just as you say ktllc, the stress and strangeness of being somewhere where we just don't fit feels like it just isn't worth it either... </p><p>If I do decide to move, the other question is whether I sell the house or keep it and let it out to people coming here on holiday (it has fantastic views, is in a very picturesque and historic village and is in a very touristy area) and come here occasionally ourselves for holidays... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 491552, member: 11227"] Well, you have not made the decision easier, lol :) But, seriously, it is very helpful to have your views and opinions. Not looking for you all to take the decision for me, MWM - in any case, it's impossible! Come what may, the person who takes the decision has to be me. I'm also not doing it to "change" J - that has not been in my thinking at all! It's about being in an environment where there are more things that may suit us better (except friends and contacts initially....) But your various responses have, as you say klmno, completely highlighted the dilemma. I fear causing great disruption to J. I fear fixing what isn't really broken. He is kind of accepted as he is in the school, having been there since the age of 3, he has his routine, his friends, his confidence. At the same time, I am sure he would adapt eventually to the new - and I think this school with its gardening, cooking, looking after animals, sport, etc would be a big draw. Obviously the younger he is when we change, the easier it will be in the long term and the quicker he will "forget". Basically, I think staying where one is is always easier. I myself am really split - part of me doesn't want to take on all the unknown, all the hassle of a move... Especially when it is towards the unknown! And then, for me, the cultural aspect for J IS important - really feeling connected to and knowing his own culture, speaking its language fluently, seems like a very desirable thing... I don't know what is going on for my ex-husband. He is an extremely contradictory, complex character who is impossible to read. I don't know that it's about not wanting J (though it could be). But there are other friends and family in Morocco to whom J is close. So you see... it is really not an easy decision! Most of you seem to think that number 2 is the best option, which is interesting. We will go and visit the area, the school, before any definitive decision is made. But, honestly, I really don't want the upheaval! Yet sometimes, just as you say ktllc, the stress and strangeness of being somewhere where we just don't fit feels like it just isn't worth it either... If I do decide to move, the other question is whether I sell the house or keep it and let it out to people coming here on holiday (it has fantastic views, is in a very picturesque and historic village and is in a very touristy area) and come here occasionally ourselves for holidays... :) :) [/QUOTE]
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