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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 491564"><p>If it's financially possible, I'd say let out the house if you move. Then if the move turns out to be the worst possible thing, you do have a fall-back even if you have to wait until the lease up, or if it's let out part-time for vacation home then you also have it as a vacation home for J to visit the friends he has there and keep those contacts as well as new ones.</p><p></p><p>Culture vs ethnicity - if J is raised as a French gentleman, that will be his culture, even if his ethnicity is Moroccan. At such an impressionable age exposing him to a culture that he hardly knows and with a very strict patriarchal structure could well remove you as an authority figure in his mind, setting you up for major problems down the road that you'd have with even a very typical kid raised that way. When he's older, wiser, and has made his own opinions on such matters, more exposure to his birth culture stands less of a chance of bending him against you. Teaching him about it is one thing, pointing out the differences to him in a controlled way and time, as opposed to tossing him in the deep end to figure it out.</p><p></p><p>Just something to think about, which I feel is what you're asking us - to point out pros and cons of the situations that you haven't noticed yet.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 491564"] If it's financially possible, I'd say let out the house if you move. Then if the move turns out to be the worst possible thing, you do have a fall-back even if you have to wait until the lease up, or if it's let out part-time for vacation home then you also have it as a vacation home for J to visit the friends he has there and keep those contacts as well as new ones. Culture vs ethnicity - if J is raised as a French gentleman, that will be his culture, even if his ethnicity is Moroccan. At such an impressionable age exposing him to a culture that he hardly knows and with a very strict patriarchal structure could well remove you as an authority figure in his mind, setting you up for major problems down the road that you'd have with even a very typical kid raised that way. When he's older, wiser, and has made his own opinions on such matters, more exposure to his birth culture stands less of a chance of bending him against you. Teaching him about it is one thing, pointing out the differences to him in a controlled way and time, as opposed to tossing him in the deep end to figure it out. Just something to think about, which I feel is what you're asking us - to point out pros and cons of the situations that you haven't noticed yet. [/QUOTE]
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