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Me again - easy child losing it because of difficult child....
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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 47057" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: HereWeGoAgain</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You did regard difficult child's g/f as an ally at one time, IIRC. I think it's good that you're recognizing her role as enabler. </div></div></p><p></p><p>Figured that out when she started feeling the need to "protect" my son from us. Nothing overt, but she would always be there to "comfort and support" him whenever something happened (argument, whatever). Usually, that means telling him that he was right and we were wrong.</p><p></p><p>"Poor baby, such cruel parents who just don't understand they don't have the <strong>right</strong> to treat you that way..."</p><p></p><p>Makes my blood boil. But I can't pick his girlfriend's any more than I can pick his friends. And pretty soon (like this fall), difficult child's going to get a dose of reality when she starts submitting applications to high-end schools in other states. She has no desire whatsoever to throw her future away and pass up Stanford, Brown, or whatever to stay here in podunk with my stoner son.</p><p></p><p>I love him to death, but that's coming like a freight train that everyone sees but him. When it finally hits that she <strong>will</strong> move on without him, I think it's going to hurt - really, really bad. </p><p></p><p>I'd try to tell him what's coming, that he's only a diversion until she starts her <em>real</em> life (without him). But he would only fight back without listening. Unfortunately, this is one life lesson he's going to have to learn the hard way - on his own.</p><p></p><p>Not a day I look forward to, that's for sure.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 47057, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: HereWeGoAgain</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You did regard difficult child's g/f as an ally at one time, IIRC. I think it's good that you're recognizing her role as enabler. </div></div> Figured that out when she started feeling the need to "protect" my son from us. Nothing overt, but she would always be there to "comfort and support" him whenever something happened (argument, whatever). Usually, that means telling him that he was right and we were wrong. "Poor baby, such cruel parents who just don't understand they don't have the [b]right[/b] to treat you that way..." Makes my blood boil. But I can't pick his girlfriend's any more than I can pick his friends. And pretty soon (like this fall), difficult child's going to get a dose of reality when she starts submitting applications to high-end schools in other states. She has no desire whatsoever to throw her future away and pass up Stanford, Brown, or whatever to stay here in podunk with my stoner son. I love him to death, but that's coming like a freight train that everyone sees but him. When it finally hits that she [b]will[/b] move on without him, I think it's going to hurt - really, really bad. I'd try to tell him what's coming, that he's only a diversion until she starts her [i]real[/i] life (without him). But he would only fight back without listening. Unfortunately, this is one life lesson he's going to have to learn the hard way - on his own. Not a day I look forward to, that's for sure. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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