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Meet my brother in law - our difficult family member - UPDATED UPDATE
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 102790" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Guru - BRAVO to your husband and you for NOT succumbing to this vortex of bail an adult man out again and again and again. </p><p></p><p>My thoughts because I've been there are: </p><p></p><p>1.) If you don't bail him out he's going to end up in jail. So be it. When he gets out of jail he's going to be depressed and go right back to doing what takes the pain away, and blame everyone anyway. </p><p></p><p>or </p><p></p><p>2.) He's going to continue to be bailed out by people who feel sorry for him, when in fact he neither feels sorry for you doing it or for himself and continue to do irreparable damage to his body and your feelings towards him. </p><p></p><p>Some people know when to say NO and mean it - doesn't mean you don't love him. It just means you refuse to enable him any longer in his quest to kill himself. </p><p></p><p>Sorry you have to go through this. 90 days rehab for the (??th) time? The pattern never changes until he chooses to change. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 102790, member: 4964"] Guru - BRAVO to your husband and you for NOT succumbing to this vortex of bail an adult man out again and again and again. My thoughts because I've been there are: 1.) If you don't bail him out he's going to end up in jail. So be it. When he gets out of jail he's going to be depressed and go right back to doing what takes the pain away, and blame everyone anyway. or 2.) He's going to continue to be bailed out by people who feel sorry for him, when in fact he neither feels sorry for you doing it or for himself and continue to do irreparable damage to his body and your feelings towards him. Some people know when to say NO and mean it - doesn't mean you don't love him. It just means you refuse to enable him any longer in his quest to kill himself. Sorry you have to go through this. 90 days rehab for the (??th) time? The pattern never changes until he chooses to change. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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