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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 233868" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>Jcox: You are aware that you are doing much to provide for this child and your other children. You have taken your child for evaluation with the apropriate experts. You have co-operated with the school. You have engaged in the relationship with candor:</p><p>you wrote down what your child had been doing for the teacher to have a heads up!</p><p>The Psyciatrist treating your child did NOT concur or advise hospitalization.</p><p>Whomever is going to come to your home is someone who has experiance and is committed to the welfare of children and families! Your sons out of control behaviors are the problem. Clearly you DO CARE and YOU WANT HELP and you WANT THE BEST FOR THIS AND ALL YOUR CHILDREN.</p><p>WELCOME THIS OPERTUNITY! Be grateful that at this early age your child is getting interventive attentions and possitively affirm that all the caring people who are looking out for your child along with you are on board to serve and improve the life of your child and your family! Let it be so! </p><p>Look at each of these people in service to your sons best life! Let them feel that you are interested in his best potentials and that you value them and the skills and the ideas they bring to you with enthusiasm!</p><p>Take in their advise and recommendations and reflect their BEST INTENTIONS.</p><p>Know in your heart and share with your children CONFIDENCE that YOU ARE GOING TO CONTINUE TO DO ALL YOU CAN AND CONTINUE TO PROVIDE A sAFE LOVING HOME FOR EaCH.</p><p>I like the idea of returning your son to the other school that you KNOW has a more appropriate staff for him. Clearly the accomidations WERE more of what he requires.</p><p></p><p>I also think getting an disability rights education attorney on this asap will do much to relieve you of a sence of being railroaded blindly at the bequest of the school staff.</p><p></p><p>"gragging the crouch area" for a six year old out of control may not be an act of 'sexual aggression' it could be merely that area was in reach. He may have as easily grabbed a leg. The teacher maybe someone who actually does not have children or has opinions that are distainful of others who have. I just met a woman in the grocery yesterday who is a school teacher of elementary children and her 'world veiws' are a collection of redoric dribbled into the public : a man she knows with baldder cancer who now has a urine bag and no bladder she says is 'gaming the system' because he drives a motorcycle and is on disability. </p><p></p><p>If the crouch grab IS a signal your son has in some way been sexually abuse lets guess: THAT WOULD MATTER TO YOU></p><p>The matter is a type of RED HERRING: the school, where your son is not accomidated appropriately places YOU in defense. In my mind whenever I find I feel the need to DEFEND is red flag #1 I am experiancing abuse.</p><p></p><p>That #1) in part reflects conditions at the school that were not appropriately responsive to evidenced need for IDEA FAPE IDEA/504 accomidations, #2) reflects a culture amoung the school staff that is </p><p>contrary to the federal laws #3) reflects an attitude where children who are age six are veiwed not as learner with special needs BUT instead somone who is "abused and neglected in their home "</p><p></p><p>If I were you I would be ready and engaged to :</p><p>#1) GET MY SON OUT OF THAT SCHOOL </p><p>#2)IMPROVE MY PARENTING SKILLS BEYOND ANY REPROACH..ie show your flexibility and responcivity</p><p>#3)Determine the best potential alternative to THAT SCHOOL and get your family running smoothly.</p><p></p><p>The DOE may have to pay the costs for Special Education bus to take your student to the next town. And also to pay for all the evaluations ect which as it is THEIR FEDERALLY MANDATED JOB.</p><p></p><p>Plenty maybe said about the ineptitude and failures of the now ending current administration...but NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND is not one of them.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile you do need to have the good touch bad touch talk with each of your children seperately. </p><p></p><p>but do not be affraid. Yes it is a hastle what you have to deal with. And this IS WHY: parents who have special needs children are not having the 'free time' to educated the experts! I have not gone to one pta meeting or volunteered to support the plight of mental health services because I am disabled and I do not want the attention on us. I have attended a zillion iep meeting and I have diligently provided the teachers with the best information and encouragement to aid them in their work with my learner. I am so grateful to them of the education that has been made possible.</p><p></p><p>And I have had meddling and inapropriate teachers who have :</p><p>cut my sons bangs to the hairline without my knowledge or permission</p><p>told me that I was 'neglecting my child' because I would not let the gp md in our </p><p>backwater clinic diagnos or treat his adhd...The ding dang school "coulda" had the appropriate referral to a child and adolecent psyciatrist and DID NOT.</p><p>a glitch on the state computer had him listed as having some companies insurance </p><p>which he never did. It took years of me asking the workers and supervisors and any state office that I could find in a phone book what to do about it. Then one day this question poped into my head " What company does it show insurance for him?"</p><p>The next nine phone calls centered around that companies policy not to write letters for indivigules they do not have as clients!</p><p>After that it was two months befor the state had changed the ERROR in their system and it was just about that much longer again befor the county could verify and schedule the evaluation with the correct expert.</p><p>And I moved just to get away from the NIT WITs in the school district who were HURTING MY KID!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 233868, member: 6271"] Jcox: You are aware that you are doing much to provide for this child and your other children. You have taken your child for evaluation with the apropriate experts. You have co-operated with the school. You have engaged in the relationship with candor: you wrote down what your child had been doing for the teacher to have a heads up! The Psyciatrist treating your child did NOT concur or advise hospitalization. Whomever is going to come to your home is someone who has experiance and is committed to the welfare of children and families! Your sons out of control behaviors are the problem. Clearly you DO CARE and YOU WANT HELP and you WANT THE BEST FOR THIS AND ALL YOUR CHILDREN. WELCOME THIS OPERTUNITY! Be grateful that at this early age your child is getting interventive attentions and possitively affirm that all the caring people who are looking out for your child along with you are on board to serve and improve the life of your child and your family! Let it be so! Look at each of these people in service to your sons best life! Let them feel that you are interested in his best potentials and that you value them and the skills and the ideas they bring to you with enthusiasm! Take in their advise and recommendations and reflect their BEST INTENTIONS. Know in your heart and share with your children CONFIDENCE that YOU ARE GOING TO CONTINUE TO DO ALL YOU CAN AND CONTINUE TO PROVIDE A sAFE LOVING HOME FOR EaCH. I like the idea of returning your son to the other school that you KNOW has a more appropriate staff for him. Clearly the accomidations WERE more of what he requires. I also think getting an disability rights education attorney on this asap will do much to relieve you of a sence of being railroaded blindly at the bequest of the school staff. "gragging the crouch area" for a six year old out of control may not be an act of 'sexual aggression' it could be merely that area was in reach. He may have as easily grabbed a leg. The teacher maybe someone who actually does not have children or has opinions that are distainful of others who have. I just met a woman in the grocery yesterday who is a school teacher of elementary children and her 'world veiws' are a collection of redoric dribbled into the public : a man she knows with baldder cancer who now has a urine bag and no bladder she says is 'gaming the system' because he drives a motorcycle and is on disability. If the crouch grab IS a signal your son has in some way been sexually abuse lets guess: THAT WOULD MATTER TO YOU> The matter is a type of RED HERRING: the school, where your son is not accomidated appropriately places YOU in defense. In my mind whenever I find I feel the need to DEFEND is red flag #1 I am experiancing abuse. That #1) in part reflects conditions at the school that were not appropriately responsive to evidenced need for IDEA FAPE IDEA/504 accomidations, #2) reflects a culture amoung the school staff that is contrary to the federal laws #3) reflects an attitude where children who are age six are veiwed not as learner with special needs BUT instead somone who is "abused and neglected in their home " If I were you I would be ready and engaged to : #1) GET MY SON OUT OF THAT SCHOOL #2)IMPROVE MY PARENTING SKILLS BEYOND ANY REPROACH..ie show your flexibility and responcivity #3)Determine the best potential alternative to THAT SCHOOL and get your family running smoothly. The DOE may have to pay the costs for Special Education bus to take your student to the next town. And also to pay for all the evaluations ect which as it is THEIR FEDERALLY MANDATED JOB. Plenty maybe said about the ineptitude and failures of the now ending current administration...but NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND is not one of them. Meanwhile you do need to have the good touch bad touch talk with each of your children seperately. but do not be affraid. Yes it is a hastle what you have to deal with. And this IS WHY: parents who have special needs children are not having the 'free time' to educated the experts! I have not gone to one pta meeting or volunteered to support the plight of mental health services because I am disabled and I do not want the attention on us. I have attended a zillion iep meeting and I have diligently provided the teachers with the best information and encouragement to aid them in their work with my learner. I am so grateful to them of the education that has been made possible. And I have had meddling and inapropriate teachers who have : cut my sons bangs to the hairline without my knowledge or permission told me that I was 'neglecting my child' because I would not let the gp md in our backwater clinic diagnos or treat his adhd...The ding dang school "coulda" had the appropriate referral to a child and adolecent psyciatrist and DID NOT. a glitch on the state computer had him listed as having some companies insurance which he never did. It took years of me asking the workers and supervisors and any state office that I could find in a phone book what to do about it. Then one day this question poped into my head " What company does it show insurance for him?" The next nine phone calls centered around that companies policy not to write letters for indivigules they do not have as clients! After that it was two months befor the state had changed the ERROR in their system and it was just about that much longer again befor the county could verify and schedule the evaluation with the correct expert. And I moved just to get away from the NIT WITs in the school district who were HURTING MY KID! [/QUOTE]
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