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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 285005" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry you had such a stressful morning. It can be so hard to get our kids going esp if the schedule changes.</p><p></p><p>It was pretty bold of him to come out and tell you that his morning outburst (tantrum?) netted him a fun field trip AND a bonus so he might try it again. I would have been VERY hard pressed to let him actually have teh game IF in fact I went through with paying for it.</p><p></p><p>You are setting a precedent here that if he has a big enough fit when you are running late then he can hold you hostage until you promise him whatever his heart is set on.</p><p></p><p>Of course you said you woudl BUY the game. That does NOT mean he needs unlimited access to it. But I spent many many years being twisted up in that breeze by the flapping of Wiz' gums as he played similar manipulative games.</p><p></p><p>At the very LEAST I would let Mr. Manster know that from now on you will not be held to any "contract" agreement or promise that he extorts from you. Let him know that the manipulation worked this time, but this is the last time. </p><p></p><p>No contract is enforceable under the law if any party is extorted into it. </p><p></p><p>And, now that he knows that he won on this manipulation he is BOUND to try it even harder for a while. It will take a lot of work on your part to stick to the new rules about this situation, but if you don't it will get a LOT worse in absolutely no time at ALL!</p><p></p><p>I am sorry it was a rough day. I hope you got some time to unwind this evening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 285005, member: 1233"] I am sorry you had such a stressful morning. It can be so hard to get our kids going esp if the schedule changes. It was pretty bold of him to come out and tell you that his morning outburst (tantrum?) netted him a fun field trip AND a bonus so he might try it again. I would have been VERY hard pressed to let him actually have teh game IF in fact I went through with paying for it. You are setting a precedent here that if he has a big enough fit when you are running late then he can hold you hostage until you promise him whatever his heart is set on. Of course you said you woudl BUY the game. That does NOT mean he needs unlimited access to it. But I spent many many years being twisted up in that breeze by the flapping of Wiz' gums as he played similar manipulative games. At the very LEAST I would let Mr. Manster know that from now on you will not be held to any "contract" agreement or promise that he extorts from you. Let him know that the manipulation worked this time, but this is the last time. No contract is enforceable under the law if any party is extorted into it. And, now that he knows that he won on this manipulation he is BOUND to try it even harder for a while. It will take a lot of work on your part to stick to the new rules about this situation, but if you don't it will get a LOT worse in absolutely no time at ALL! I am sorry it was a rough day. I hope you got some time to unwind this evening. [/QUOTE]
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