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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 321475" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Janet, </p><p> </p><p>You know...I read all of this and I sat back and I thought she went through all of that and is one of the most humble, kind, gentle and most fantastic listeners I've ever met. It's not like I can read all this and say "so what." But darlin'...all those things, all those horrible things aren't how you are, they're what you overcame to become who you are. </p><p> </p><p>Literally it's a miracle that you survived, but moreso the miracle is in your ability to tell the story to others who know you for the gentle - see I said gentle again - I mean that's what comes to mind when I think of you. Caring, compassionate, gentle, loving, concerned, - not any of those horrible things that were thrown at you. You're not a survivor; you are an overcomer you live, you shine, you breathe you move on - you make people WANT to be around you. You make people want to give you their kids. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> In the event that .....</p><p> </p><p>You aren't your Mother. If you're anything like her at all? You're only the good things that genetically she could pass on to you. The bad things that she was? Never made it to your persona. Through all that you wrote? I do not see a single ugly, hateful, mean spirited thing about a your Momma that you could have said - but didn't. Instead I see a little girl that would have just loved to have done ANYTHING in the world to be accepted, loved, appreciated, cared about, adored, listened to, worried about - wanted, needed, by people she loved. It may not be the family that you wanted years ago to give you that recognition dear, but being adopted I can tell you you can't pick your family - but sometimes if you're lucky? You get a second chance with a new family...one that wants you and loves you, and would be lost with out you. That's us. It's me for sure. </p><p> </p><p>I've never spoken to you on the phone because I was always so worried that if anyone knew your number and something happened to us, that you'd be in danger with coming to get Dude. Since he went there? It was nice after 10-11 years to FINALLY be able to talk to you on the phone. I was just so tickled and happy to be able to just chat with you after all this time. And laugh...OMG...eeeeeeesh. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> But in any event I am so thankful for you in my life. When I met you and knew Dude had a twin? It made me feel like there was hope. When you could laugh about Cory's stunts...it let me laugh (a little) at Dudes stunts. When you said "well that's not so bad" and I wanted to kill Dude? It probably saved a life. For that? Dude is thankful. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /></p><p> </p><p>I say this a lot because I never understood why people get put in and out of our lives. Seems people have always been in mine for such a short time and then gone, but we never meet people for no reason. I'm very glad I met you. I get you. If you never told me a thing about your past? I'd still get you. Wouldn't ever matter to me. I just like you for who you are. And I'm thankful for you all the time. I am sorry that you had such a horrible childhood, I wish you could have known a better one...you sure gave your boys a much better one than you had and that has to could triple with your kids. (three boys) and now you have grands...who would not be here without you. </p><p> </p><p>It would be interesting to see had your Mom not been so ill and your Dad not been so absent what your diagnosis would have been. I'm just guessing but seeing how you are so kind and compassionate? I'm guessing your brain map wouldn't have gone BiPolar (BP) which really makes me wonder if you did some intense EMDR therapy if it couldn't maybe ?? Be lessened a lot more? </p><p> </p><p>Just thinking out loud 'cause I can....and I love you. Really. Really. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway - just thought you needed to hear that...on paper.....or not paper but.....what do you call this? Not ink.....lol....never thought about this -what do you say. Thought I'd put my thoughts down - digitally for you? Gaw.....I'm so old. no....I'm aging.....Wait if you were 17 in 80...then I am younger than you....ha. coooool. Wait.....*(air math) yup. I am. Okay. Anyway......Hugs....<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Thanks for loving us enough to share. It was a beautiful thing, thanks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 321475, member: 4964"] Janet, You know...I read all of this and I sat back and I thought she went through all of that and is one of the most humble, kind, gentle and most fantastic listeners I've ever met. It's not like I can read all this and say "so what." But darlin'...all those things, all those horrible things aren't how you are, they're what you overcame to become who you are. Literally it's a miracle that you survived, but moreso the miracle is in your ability to tell the story to others who know you for the gentle - see I said gentle again - I mean that's what comes to mind when I think of you. Caring, compassionate, gentle, loving, concerned, - not any of those horrible things that were thrown at you. You're not a survivor; you are an overcomer you live, you shine, you breathe you move on - you make people WANT to be around you. You make people want to give you their kids. :winking: In the event that ..... You aren't your Mother. If you're anything like her at all? You're only the good things that genetically she could pass on to you. The bad things that she was? Never made it to your persona. Through all that you wrote? I do not see a single ugly, hateful, mean spirited thing about a your Momma that you could have said - but didn't. Instead I see a little girl that would have just loved to have done ANYTHING in the world to be accepted, loved, appreciated, cared about, adored, listened to, worried about - wanted, needed, by people she loved. It may not be the family that you wanted years ago to give you that recognition dear, but being adopted I can tell you you can't pick your family - but sometimes if you're lucky? You get a second chance with a new family...one that wants you and loves you, and would be lost with out you. That's us. It's me for sure. I've never spoken to you on the phone because I was always so worried that if anyone knew your number and something happened to us, that you'd be in danger with coming to get Dude. Since he went there? It was nice after 10-11 years to FINALLY be able to talk to you on the phone. I was just so tickled and happy to be able to just chat with you after all this time. And laugh...OMG...eeeeeeesh. :winking: But in any event I am so thankful for you in my life. When I met you and knew Dude had a twin? It made me feel like there was hope. When you could laugh about Cory's stunts...it let me laugh (a little) at Dudes stunts. When you said "well that's not so bad" and I wanted to kill Dude? It probably saved a life. For that? Dude is thankful. :surprised1: I say this a lot because I never understood why people get put in and out of our lives. Seems people have always been in mine for such a short time and then gone, but we never meet people for no reason. I'm very glad I met you. I get you. If you never told me a thing about your past? I'd still get you. Wouldn't ever matter to me. I just like you for who you are. And I'm thankful for you all the time. I am sorry that you had such a horrible childhood, I wish you could have known a better one...you sure gave your boys a much better one than you had and that has to could triple with your kids. (three boys) and now you have grands...who would not be here without you. It would be interesting to see had your Mom not been so ill and your Dad not been so absent what your diagnosis would have been. I'm just guessing but seeing how you are so kind and compassionate? I'm guessing your brain map wouldn't have gone BiPolar (BP) which really makes me wonder if you did some intense EMDR therapy if it couldn't maybe ?? Be lessened a lot more? Just thinking out loud 'cause I can....and I love you. Really. Really. Anyway - just thought you needed to hear that...on paper.....or not paper but.....what do you call this? Not ink.....lol....never thought about this -what do you say. Thought I'd put my thoughts down - digitally for you? Gaw.....I'm so old. no....I'm aging.....Wait if you were 17 in 80...then I am younger than you....ha. coooool. Wait.....*(air math) yup. I am. Okay. Anyway......Hugs....:winking: Thanks for loving us enough to share. It was a beautiful thing, thanks. [/QUOTE]
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