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Mental or Behavioral Issue?--Not able to understand and is really scaring me
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 348167" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I agree with-the others.</p><p> </p><p>My son has a somewhat similar issue, but he's not as old as your son.</p><p> </p><p>Your son hasn't had the right conseqences yet. He knows that the police are a bigger deal than Mom and Dad, so that's a start.</p><p>Does he get scared or angry when the police show up ? That's a step in the right direction. </p><p>Sit him down and outline consequences for certain behaviors. For example, </p><p>Watching TV and skipping school = calling school, then calling police (or whatever enforcement group you have for truancy)</p><p>Smoking in the house = not allowing him access to "fun money," and scrubbing all ashtrays, walls, and curtains and anything affected by the smelly smoke</p><p>Ignoring your rule to clean up after smoking = get rid of TV.</p><p> </p><p>In fact, I would get rid of the TV anyway. Don't do it in front of him. He'll try to stop you and at 17, he's probably big enough. Wait until he's out of the house. </p><p>This also means you cannot watch TV. Don't worry about it. You and your wife can slip out to a local restaurant and watch TV there while you have a date night. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>You want to make it NOT FUN to be at home during the day, and make it GOOD to go to school. </p><p> </p><p>Bringing home homework = movie tickets</p><p> </p><p>Get the idea?</p><p>Clearly, something is missing in his brain and it's not going to be rewired using regular parenting methods.</p><p> </p><p>He may also be depressed ... so what kinds of drugs is he using? Is he self medicating, or is he giving into peer pressure or both?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 348167, member: 3419"] I agree with-the others. My son has a somewhat similar issue, but he's not as old as your son. Your son hasn't had the right conseqences yet. He knows that the police are a bigger deal than Mom and Dad, so that's a start. Does he get scared or angry when the police show up ? That's a step in the right direction. Sit him down and outline consequences for certain behaviors. For example, Watching TV and skipping school = calling school, then calling police (or whatever enforcement group you have for truancy) Smoking in the house = not allowing him access to "fun money," and scrubbing all ashtrays, walls, and curtains and anything affected by the smelly smoke Ignoring your rule to clean up after smoking = get rid of TV. In fact, I would get rid of the TV anyway. Don't do it in front of him. He'll try to stop you and at 17, he's probably big enough. Wait until he's out of the house. This also means you cannot watch TV. Don't worry about it. You and your wife can slip out to a local restaurant and watch TV there while you have a date night. :) You want to make it NOT FUN to be at home during the day, and make it GOOD to go to school. Bringing home homework = movie tickets Get the idea? Clearly, something is missing in his brain and it's not going to be rewired using regular parenting methods. He may also be depressed ... so what kinds of drugs is he using? Is he self medicating, or is he giving into peer pressure or both? [/QUOTE]
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