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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 224728" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I love Christmas. I truly do. Honest, really and truly. That being said, I hate what Christmas does to kids, even the really good ones. I spent more than one Christmas season crying because my little one couldn't/wouldn't control herself and presents would be opened early, there would be rages, people would wonder what is wrong with that child and so on and so forth.</p><p> </p><p>Here are some things that helped at least a little. I got some small gifts and we opened one every evening for the week before Christmas. These were opened immediately after dinner so there would be time to play with them and, hopefully, break them before bedtime so that a rage wouldn't ensue. All other gifts were at a friend's house. Otherwise, she'd opened them regardless of whose gifts they were. </p><p> </p><p>We followed a "Christmas routine." Bedtime was moved up 30 minutes once school was out. However, we got ready for bed 15 minutes after dinner and open mini present (usually from the dollar store). Then it was snuggle time with a Christmas program or play with new gift (her choice). Then we drove around looking at Christmas lights -- a different direction every night -- for no more than 45 minutes. Home and bedtime.</p><p> </p><p>For special events like your son's concert, I would honestly just wait until the day of the event and then see how she was acting and how she felt about going. If she wanted to go, I didn't worry about how she was going to act, she got to go and I'd suffer through the other parents' looks. Her being happy was more important and she rarely was anxious when she was little.</p><p> </p><p>I will admit it is so much nicer now that she's grown up. Heck, even at 16, Christmas was a challenge. She would still have hissy fits if she didn't get her way. Really don't know why because she really did know that fits got her nowhere. At least they're pleasant now.</p><p> </p><p>I think I'd be telling easy child 2 that no tv may mean something different at her mom's house but in mine it meant no tv. Period. It really does bite when others so undermine our kids. I wish they would realize just how harmful their "adult" behavior is. I think this is one of the main reasons I appreciated the fact that my ex really did not want anything to do with raising my daughter. I could vent to him but he never tried to make any suggestions since he felt it was my child.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck and hope Christmas improves a little for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 224728, member: 3626"] I love Christmas. I truly do. Honest, really and truly. That being said, I hate what Christmas does to kids, even the really good ones. I spent more than one Christmas season crying because my little one couldn't/wouldn't control herself and presents would be opened early, there would be rages, people would wonder what is wrong with that child and so on and so forth. Here are some things that helped at least a little. I got some small gifts and we opened one every evening for the week before Christmas. These were opened immediately after dinner so there would be time to play with them and, hopefully, break them before bedtime so that a rage wouldn't ensue. All other gifts were at a friend's house. Otherwise, she'd opened them regardless of whose gifts they were. We followed a "Christmas routine." Bedtime was moved up 30 minutes once school was out. However, we got ready for bed 15 minutes after dinner and open mini present (usually from the dollar store). Then it was snuggle time with a Christmas program or play with new gift (her choice). Then we drove around looking at Christmas lights -- a different direction every night -- for no more than 45 minutes. Home and bedtime. For special events like your son's concert, I would honestly just wait until the day of the event and then see how she was acting and how she felt about going. If she wanted to go, I didn't worry about how she was going to act, she got to go and I'd suffer through the other parents' looks. Her being happy was more important and she rarely was anxious when she was little. I will admit it is so much nicer now that she's grown up. Heck, even at 16, Christmas was a challenge. She would still have hissy fits if she didn't get her way. Really don't know why because she really did know that fits got her nowhere. At least they're pleasant now. I think I'd be telling easy child 2 that no tv may mean something different at her mom's house but in mine it meant no tv. Period. It really does bite when others so undermine our kids. I wish they would realize just how harmful their "adult" behavior is. I think this is one of the main reasons I appreciated the fact that my ex really did not want anything to do with raising my daughter. I could vent to him but he never tried to make any suggestions since he felt it was my child. Good luck and hope Christmas improves a little for you. [/QUOTE]
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