It's all my dang reading about antisocial personality disorder...lolol. I thought maybe 36 has it so I did some intensive educating myself o n it and one of the traits is that they don't really have empathy, a conscience or the ability to care about anyone, but they love to put one over on people. They use people for games, to manipulate and know how to be superficially charming by copying other people. But it's not real. Usually when they cozy up to us it is to benefit them.
I'm not saying JT is antisocial, but like most of the difficult children here, he has traits. Many antisocials also substance abuse so it's not uncommon to see that combination. That's why I told you I sense he is going to ask for a huge favor sometime soon. All of a sudden after being a jerk for how long??? he is making friendly offers. I find it suspicious and from my own experience scary.
I don't think 36 is antisocial after all I've read. He may be though and just be good at acting like he has a heart at times. That's their ace...pretending for their own benefit. At any rate, he sure doesn't come around unless he is needy, then I can't get him to leave me alone and he needs me to help him solve EVERY little problem, which I refuse to do. But just to be asked such silly questions from somebody his age makes me limit contact.
I feel for you. Keep your radar up 
