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Miss 3 with likely Aspergers - how do you deal with anxiety episodes?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 363739" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome! It sounds like you have your hands full! This forum will give you lots of ideas and support. best of all no one will tell you it is all your fault or judge you!! We truly have walked in your shoes so we won't tell you that you are imagining things or making mountains out of molehills either!!</p><p></p><p>I think the candle idea is excellent. Is there an item that your daughter uses to soothe herself? Like a blankie or stuffed animal? One thing that made a big difference to my kids was making sure that they had their "lovey" available at all times. When anxiety hit they were more able to calm themselves if they could have it. My oldest had a little teddy bear that played Teddy bear's Picnic. The sound of the music made an almost instant difference. My daughter always had an item with a very silky ribbon. either the edge of a blanket or ribbon with the texture sewn onto something. She was unable to lie flat to sleep for the first year or so because sinus problems, so she wore out car seat covers often. My mother would make new covers and sew a length of ribbon to them. She would finger that ribbon anytime she was upset. She is now 14 and still has a couple of blankies. They are smaller now but they still help her. </p><p></p><p>If you can help her learn to calm herself with an item it may help. Recognizing that she truly is scared and anxious about things like sauces will help you handle her. How do you handle foods you don't like? Often we suggest not fighting battles over food. it can set up a very unhealthy power struggle over food. You don't have to make every meal be just what she wants. If you are making something she cannot stand it will help if you can make a sandwich or something simple for her to eat instead of the other food. It isn't "spoiling" her. It is recognizing that at her age she truly cannot handle certain things and making accommodations for her. Just as if she was color blind you would not expect her to identify the colors she cannot see. Or expect her to get something off a high shelf without climbing up something because she is short. It really is the same sort of thing. Once she is fairly comfortable in the knowledge that she does not have to eat foods she cannot handle then you will likely be able to get her to try tiny amounts of new foods.</p><p></p><p>have you asked her what she thinks she could do when she is so upset she wants to kick or hit? Maybe there is something safe she could kick or hit as an alternative. One of those inflatable punching bags might work. As odd as it may sound to ask her about it, it will help her learn how to figure out how to cope. maybe if she thinks hitting a pillow will help you can take a pillow with you wherever you go. they have little half size travel pillows in stores here for just a couple of dollars. Maybe she could pick out a fabric to make a cover out of and it can be her anxiety pillow. When you go out you could just toss it in the car or the stroller for her baby sister. Knowing she has it there could help her stay in control.</p><p></p><p>These are just some ideas. I know how hard it is to handle this stuff when you have another little one and get no sleep. Remember that you simply cannot be a good parent if you do not take care of yourself. So maybe you can get someone to watch the kids every week or so and you can go for a walk or meditate or take a bubble bath or whatever. When I used to get overwhelmed and exhausted I would ask my husband to handle things while I took a long bath with a book with NO knocks on the door. When husband was overwhelmed I would either take the kids to the park or do something quiet with them so he could play on the computer for a couple of hours uninterrupted. It made a big difference in how we functioned as a family when we took care of ourselves.</p><p></p><p>I hope the pediatrician is able to help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 363739, member: 1233"] Welcome! It sounds like you have your hands full! This forum will give you lots of ideas and support. best of all no one will tell you it is all your fault or judge you!! We truly have walked in your shoes so we won't tell you that you are imagining things or making mountains out of molehills either!! I think the candle idea is excellent. Is there an item that your daughter uses to soothe herself? Like a blankie or stuffed animal? One thing that made a big difference to my kids was making sure that they had their "lovey" available at all times. When anxiety hit they were more able to calm themselves if they could have it. My oldest had a little teddy bear that played Teddy bear's Picnic. The sound of the music made an almost instant difference. My daughter always had an item with a very silky ribbon. either the edge of a blanket or ribbon with the texture sewn onto something. She was unable to lie flat to sleep for the first year or so because sinus problems, so she wore out car seat covers often. My mother would make new covers and sew a length of ribbon to them. She would finger that ribbon anytime she was upset. She is now 14 and still has a couple of blankies. They are smaller now but they still help her. If you can help her learn to calm herself with an item it may help. Recognizing that she truly is scared and anxious about things like sauces will help you handle her. How do you handle foods you don't like? Often we suggest not fighting battles over food. it can set up a very unhealthy power struggle over food. You don't have to make every meal be just what she wants. If you are making something she cannot stand it will help if you can make a sandwich or something simple for her to eat instead of the other food. It isn't "spoiling" her. It is recognizing that at her age she truly cannot handle certain things and making accommodations for her. Just as if she was color blind you would not expect her to identify the colors she cannot see. Or expect her to get something off a high shelf without climbing up something because she is short. It really is the same sort of thing. Once she is fairly comfortable in the knowledge that she does not have to eat foods she cannot handle then you will likely be able to get her to try tiny amounts of new foods. have you asked her what she thinks she could do when she is so upset she wants to kick or hit? Maybe there is something safe she could kick or hit as an alternative. One of those inflatable punching bags might work. As odd as it may sound to ask her about it, it will help her learn how to figure out how to cope. maybe if she thinks hitting a pillow will help you can take a pillow with you wherever you go. they have little half size travel pillows in stores here for just a couple of dollars. Maybe she could pick out a fabric to make a cover out of and it can be her anxiety pillow. When you go out you could just toss it in the car or the stroller for her baby sister. Knowing she has it there could help her stay in control. These are just some ideas. I know how hard it is to handle this stuff when you have another little one and get no sleep. Remember that you simply cannot be a good parent if you do not take care of yourself. So maybe you can get someone to watch the kids every week or so and you can go for a walk or meditate or take a bubble bath or whatever. When I used to get overwhelmed and exhausted I would ask my husband to handle things while I took a long bath with a book with NO knocks on the door. When husband was overwhelmed I would either take the kids to the park or do something quiet with them so he could play on the computer for a couple of hours uninterrupted. It made a big difference in how we functioned as a family when we took care of ourselves. I hope the pediatrician is able to help. [/QUOTE]
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