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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 270255" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I don't know for sure, but there's an excellent chance that your son is doing more than just pot, especially if he has been just allowing himself to deteriorate. My daughter was that way, and the best thing we ever did was to make her leave. There was no way she was going to use drugs and get worse with our help. </p><p></p><p>When the cops would come to our house looking for our daughter, they made it clear that, although they weren't going to do this to us, WE could be in trouble for drugs if it is in our house. That included the paraphernalia. I had two younger kids who didn't need to see her behavior. They needed to see our disapproval of it.</p><p></p><p>She is doing fine on her own now. It has been almost seven years. Today she and her boyfriend just closed on their first home. They don't do drugs anymore. She doesn't even smoke cigarettes. I never gave her a dime. She worked for it. Nobody will quit drugs until they are ready. And there are more acceptable ways to deal with depression than pot, which is a depressant. I have a terrible mood disorder and I tried pot a few times--made me a lot worse.</p><p></p><p>Hang tough or you could have him around your neck forever. He knows EXACTLY what this is doing to you and he's trying to make you feel guilty so you'll give him easy money (probably to get more drugs.) Since he is blatantly going to keep smoking pot, I would blatantly allow him to hit rock bottom or just support himself. He's not that little boy anymore, although I know how you have those memories--I did too. The fact is, he's an adult and not making good choices, just like my daughter didn't. I had to let her see for herself or she may never have decided to quit.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 270255, member: 1550"] I don't know for sure, but there's an excellent chance that your son is doing more than just pot, especially if he has been just allowing himself to deteriorate. My daughter was that way, and the best thing we ever did was to make her leave. There was no way she was going to use drugs and get worse with our help. When the cops would come to our house looking for our daughter, they made it clear that, although they weren't going to do this to us, WE could be in trouble for drugs if it is in our house. That included the paraphernalia. I had two younger kids who didn't need to see her behavior. They needed to see our disapproval of it. She is doing fine on her own now. It has been almost seven years. Today she and her boyfriend just closed on their first home. They don't do drugs anymore. She doesn't even smoke cigarettes. I never gave her a dime. She worked for it. Nobody will quit drugs until they are ready. And there are more acceptable ways to deal with depression than pot, which is a depressant. I have a terrible mood disorder and I tried pot a few times--made me a lot worse. Hang tough or you could have him around your neck forever. He knows EXACTLY what this is doing to you and he's trying to make you feel guilty so you'll give him easy money (probably to get more drugs.) Since he is blatantly going to keep smoking pot, I would blatantly allow him to hit rock bottom or just support himself. He's not that little boy anymore, although I know how you have those memories--I did too. The fact is, he's an adult and not making good choices, just like my daughter didn't. I had to let her see for herself or she may never have decided to quit. [/QUOTE]
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