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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 626670" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Have you tried to sell her positive, adult reasons why she should be willing, even eager, to have a job in fast food for the summer? And I don't mean "you have to work", "you have to earn your own money" (that of course are real adult reasons to have a job) but more in the line: "You need a job so your CV doesn't have an empty spot", "fast food job in fact looks good, when you are looking for better jobs later, employers like young people to have experience in customer service and doing your time in fast food shows you are able to handle the stress." Those were the points we used last summer to sell our easy child the idea that he certainly wanted to spend his summer selling ice cream from the small kiosk with very minimal pay when most of his friends were at the beach.</p><p></p><p>Teens tend to sometimes like it and listen for that kind of reasons much better than ultimatums or "we pay your food and roof on your head, we can make the rules" type of encouragement.</p><p></p><p>EDIT: And with our easy child I totally understand his reluctance to take that job. Pay was disgustingly bad, no opportunity to use the toilet during the work day, the kiosk was either hot or cold, work hours were ridiculous (he got to know if he had work at the morning, hours could be anything from the couple to full day, he only had work if the weather was nice.) And did I say it paid really bad. But it does look good in his CV.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 626670, member: 14557"] Have you tried to sell her positive, adult reasons why she should be willing, even eager, to have a job in fast food for the summer? And I don't mean "you have to work", "you have to earn your own money" (that of course are real adult reasons to have a job) but more in the line: "You need a job so your CV doesn't have an empty spot", "fast food job in fact looks good, when you are looking for better jobs later, employers like young people to have experience in customer service and doing your time in fast food shows you are able to handle the stress." Those were the points we used last summer to sell our easy child the idea that he certainly wanted to spend his summer selling ice cream from the small kiosk with very minimal pay when most of his friends were at the beach. Teens tend to sometimes like it and listen for that kind of reasons much better than ultimatums or "we pay your food and roof on your head, we can make the rules" type of encouragement. EDIT: And with our easy child I totally understand his reluctance to take that job. Pay was disgustingly bad, no opportunity to use the toilet during the work day, the kiosk was either hot or cold, work hours were ridiculous (he got to know if he had work at the morning, hours could be anything from the couple to full day, he only had work if the weather was nice.) And did I say it paid really bad. But it does look good in his CV. [/QUOTE]
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