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<blockquote data-quote="Coookie" data-source="post: 164990" data-attributes="member: 1587"><p>Aw Jo,</p><p> </p><p>Sending hugs. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>It seems to me, in observing my difficult child and his 2 psycho females, that our difficult children almost need the drama in their lives to survive. When they were kids the center of their needed drama was us... now they have branched out and we are still in it but more of an observer. At least that is how it is with us. :crazy1:</p><p> </p><p>You are right, no amount of talking is going to change their thought processes. Only experience and the hope that they get so sick of living in the turmoil that they change it. Don't know.... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>It is hard to watch, believe me I know, but not much else we can do. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>Trying to "save" someone is not only something we have done, seems our difficult children have that "need" also. :crazy1:</p><p> </p><p>We have new locks in our pantry, difficult child knows it and he also knows that they will be changed if we don't get a phone call if he will be gone. As far as who he stays with, or what he does.... out of our hands.</p><p> </p><p>I swallow my heart, read my detachment/letting go info and think of other things. husband and I figure that at this point in our lives we have said all the words, attempted to give all the "wisdom" we have and any other attempts at talking are futile. </p><p> </p><p>That may sound cold, you know we are not, we will be here for him but I refuse to live my life as a crazy person. LOL I spent far too many years doing that... raising him.</p><p> </p><p>Deciding what you will tolerate, setting the boundaries and standing by them is a hard thing to do.... standing by them is the hardest... but an old Donna Sommer's song runs through my head frequently.....</p><p> </p><p>"Enough is Enough"...</p><p> </p><p>Lot of rambling here. Just wanted to send a hug and some empathy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Coookie, post: 164990, member: 1587"] Aw Jo, Sending hugs. :( It seems to me, in observing my difficult child and his 2 psycho females, that our difficult children almost need the drama in their lives to survive. When they were kids the center of their needed drama was us... now they have branched out and we are still in it but more of an observer. At least that is how it is with us. :crazy1: You are right, no amount of talking is going to change their thought processes. Only experience and the hope that they get so sick of living in the turmoil that they change it. Don't know.... :( It is hard to watch, believe me I know, but not much else we can do. :( Trying to "save" someone is not only something we have done, seems our difficult children have that "need" also. :crazy1: We have new locks in our pantry, difficult child knows it and he also knows that they will be changed if we don't get a phone call if he will be gone. As far as who he stays with, or what he does.... out of our hands. I swallow my heart, read my detachment/letting go info and think of other things. husband and I figure that at this point in our lives we have said all the words, attempted to give all the "wisdom" we have and any other attempts at talking are futile. That may sound cold, you know we are not, we will be here for him but I refuse to live my life as a crazy person. LOL I spent far too many years doing that... raising him. Deciding what you will tolerate, setting the boundaries and standing by them is a hard thing to do.... standing by them is the hardest... but an old Donna Sommer's song runs through my head frequently..... "Enough is Enough"... Lot of rambling here. Just wanted to send a hug and some empathy. [/QUOTE]
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