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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 101705" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Does anyone have power of attorney or the ability to make medical decisions for your mom?</p><p>If not, none of you have authority over the other. </p><p>Mom needs to pick someone to be in charge of her needs. Doesn't mean that person does all the work but has final say.</p><p></p><p>Truthfully, at 85 moving from one home to the other has to be so disconcerting. Can't she stay for longer lengths of time? 2 months at each? </p><p></p><p>I took my dad in after his first stroke. He stayed for 3 yrs. I made the decision on my own and had no expectation from my siblings. Fortunately 3 of the 4 other sibs pitched in so I could have a day off. By the end of 3yrs and 6 strokes later, he required a fair amount of supervised care. My sibs were grateful that it was given and did everything they could to make my job easier. </p><p>My dad made one child in charge of his medical decisions(me) It had nothing to do with estate planning or money. Just medical care. Your mom needs one. Quickly. </p><p></p><p>Heck if your sister thinks she can heal her in a month. Tell her go for it. A month isn't going to make a difference. Let your sister work it out. Talk to this sister about talking to mom about medical power of attorney. If sis is it, fine. The rest of you will have to abide by mom's choice. If T isn't the person, then she needs to take a deep breath. </p><p></p><p>The woman is 85 and shouldn't be pinged ponged medically from who gives medications and who doesn't. It's unsafe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 101705, member: 3"] Does anyone have power of attorney or the ability to make medical decisions for your mom? If not, none of you have authority over the other. Mom needs to pick someone to be in charge of her needs. Doesn't mean that person does all the work but has final say. Truthfully, at 85 moving from one home to the other has to be so disconcerting. Can't she stay for longer lengths of time? 2 months at each? I took my dad in after his first stroke. He stayed for 3 yrs. I made the decision on my own and had no expectation from my siblings. Fortunately 3 of the 4 other sibs pitched in so I could have a day off. By the end of 3yrs and 6 strokes later, he required a fair amount of supervised care. My sibs were grateful that it was given and did everything they could to make my job easier. My dad made one child in charge of his medical decisions(me) It had nothing to do with estate planning or money. Just medical care. Your mom needs one. Quickly. Heck if your sister thinks she can heal her in a month. Tell her go for it. A month isn't going to make a difference. Let your sister work it out. Talk to this sister about talking to mom about medical power of attorney. If sis is it, fine. The rest of you will have to abide by mom's choice. If T isn't the person, then she needs to take a deep breath. The woman is 85 and shouldn't be pinged ponged medically from who gives medications and who doesn't. It's unsafe. [/QUOTE]
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